Why would it be fair and reasonable to the company that didn't pull the offer? Seems pretty bizarre to justify being a jerk to someone yourself because a comple

Why would it be fair and reasonable to the company that didn't pull the offer? Seems pretty bizarre to justify being a jerk to someone yourself because a completely unrelated party is a jerk to you (or, in your scenario, you don't even know whether they'll be a jerk to you, making it even weirder). All you're doing is making it impossible for your own company to start the process of spreading the loss of an FTE, and actively making the lives of your colleagues terrible.