I think I wrote my initial comment from a very different perspective, but we know how difficult it is to bring all this across in text :) None of the technique

I think I wrote my initial comment from a very different perspective, but we know how difficult it is to bring all this across in text :) None of the techniques I described are meant to be judgemental. It's only about helping yourself passively recognize rumination. While it did them I never once felt I was being unkind to myself, since it's neither meant to hurt nor negatively judge. The "STOP" example is literally about picturing something, not about "screaming at yourself". To get back to your initial points - you are definitely correct that you have to approach yourself with kindness, and if you feel that anything I described is unkind, you should find a way that works for you!