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It made me chuckle, maybe take a joke?

animal_spirits 3y ago
It's unfortunate, but I know many people in my life who have been sexually abused and raped. I'm more sensitive to sexual jokes because of it. My intent here is to push the author past the easy joke title which can make women feel uncomfortable to be in this area of the internet. Tech is very male dominated and the more inclusive we are the more ideas we bring to the table.
- eru 3y ago
  > Tech is very male dominated and the more inclusive we are the more ideas we bring to the table. Tech has been bending over backwards for quite a while, but to no avail. In contrast, marketing, law, medicine etc used to be very male dominated a few decades ago, made almost no attempt at welcoming women, and still got many of them. It's almost as if women make their own choices, and it's not really down to how welcoming specific fields are? It's almost as if women have preferences of their own? Who would have guessed? See https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/08/01/gender-imbalances-are-mostly-not-due-to-offensive-attitudes/ https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/08/01/gender-imbalances-are-... and https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/08/07/contra-grant-on-exaggerated-differences/ https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/08/07/contra-grant-on-exagge...
  - animal_spirits 3y ago
    Do you think people make their own choices on where to work based on how comfortable they feel working in that environment?
    - ayknfsefb 3y ago
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    - eru 3y ago
      Partially. But obviously lots of other factors are important. Have a look at the slatestarcodex essays for more detail. Scott Alexander writes better than me.
  - zephyrnh 3y ago
    > Tech has been bending over backwards for quite a while, but to no avail. You're applying a false equivalence here. Some things are positive changes and make sense, and some are not. Grouping everything together isn't helpful. I am male, and my first thought on reading the title was that it was juvenile to a point that I was surprised to see it as a title on HN. Hearing someone else echo that feedback is helpful and will hopefully help the author in their growth. This is not a "bend over backwards" request, it's a dumb sexual joke on HN, and your response comes across as very condescending.
    - deleted 3y ago
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    - ayknfsefb 3y ago
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    - eru 3y ago
      For what it's worth, I even partially agree with you. I went back and noticed that the original comment is dead and flagged now. So I 'vouched' for it: I don't entirely agree with the contents, but I think it is part of a good debate.
- libsareanimals 3y ago
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- ars 3y ago
  I googled ^D and didn't find any other meaning other than ctrl-D? Some places said a D is short for Dick, but I don't see why that would be especially offensive to abuse victims because it seems to be used in a flirtatious way, not an abusive way.
  - animal_spirits 3y ago
    To give context, it's a reference to "getting the D" or "giving the D" which is slang for getting/giving someone 'dick' which is inappropriate considering this is a post about terminals.
- libsareanimals 3y ago
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HopenHeyHi 3y ago
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joshl32532 3y ago
This is why tech bro culture persist.
- AdieuToLogic 3y ago
  > This is why tech bro culture persist. Because one person on the Internet interpreted a title as a double entendre and said so?
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  - joshl32532 3y ago
    I have nothing to say if you insist that phrase is not a sexual innuendo. There's so many ways to phrase the title, but the author has to use https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Getting%20the%20D https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Getting%20th....
lifthrasiir 3y ago
I initially didn't get either of you, all I can think of was a half-face emoticon. It turns out that "getting the D" means something (I'll refrain from explaining this), and with this context "take a joke" is really unacceptable---it means you know the joke and you think it's fine, which isn't.
- xoac 3y ago
  I don’t really get why this is so offensive. It’s some guy’s webpage, where we are just visitors, on which he has shared some knowledge with a title that plays on a double entendre. It’s not about taking a joke as it’s not something addressed to you at all. People need to stop being hall monitors on the internet. Just close the page, move on.
- mdp2021 3y ago
  The title makes some absolute sense, so it is per se acceptable. You may take this case as a reminder to remain focused and disregard unnecessary potential lateral reads.
  - lifthrasiir 3y ago
    I didn't take offense to the title; it is not even clear whether the author intended that joke (I didn't know that phrase so could the author). I merely pointed out that, if you think the author intended this particular joke, then it is inappropriate to say "take [the] joke".
- arpa 3y ago
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It's unfortunate, but I know many people in my life who have been sexually abused and raped. I'm more sensitive to sexual jokes because of it. My intent here is to push the author past the easy joke title which can make women feel uncomfortable to be in this area of the internet. Tech is very male dominated and the more inclusive we are the more ideas we bring to the table.

eru 3y ago
> Tech is very male dominated and the more inclusive we are the more ideas we bring to the table. Tech has been bending over backwards for quite a while, but to no avail. In contrast, marketing, law, medicine etc used to be very male dominated a few decades ago, made almost no attempt at welcoming women, and still got many of them. It's almost as if women make their own choices, and it's not really down to how welcoming specific fields are? It's almost as if women have preferences of their own? Who would have guessed? See https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/08/01/gender-imbalances-are-mostly-not-due-to-offensive-attitudes/ https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/08/01/gender-imbalances-are-... and https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/08/07/contra-grant-on-exaggerated-differences/ https://slatestarcodex.com/2017/08/07/contra-grant-on-exagge...
- animal_spirits 3y ago
  Do you think people make their own choices on where to work based on how comfortable they feel working in that environment?
  - ayknfsefb 3y ago
    [flagged]
  - eru 3y ago
    Partially. But obviously lots of other factors are important. Have a look at the slatestarcodex essays for more detail. Scott Alexander writes better than me.
- zephyrnh 3y ago
  > Tech has been bending over backwards for quite a while, but to no avail. You're applying a false equivalence here. Some things are positive changes and make sense, and some are not. Grouping everything together isn't helpful. I am male, and my first thought on reading the title was that it was juvenile to a point that I was surprised to see it as a title on HN. Hearing someone else echo that feedback is helpful and will hopefully help the author in their growth. This is not a "bend over backwards" request, it's a dumb sexual joke on HN, and your response comes across as very condescending.
  - deleted 3y ago
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  - ayknfsefb 3y ago
    [flagged]
  - eru 3y ago
    For what it's worth, I even partially agree with you. I went back and noticed that the original comment is dead and flagged now. So I 'vouched' for it: I don't entirely agree with the contents, but I think it is part of a good debate.
libsareanimals 3y ago
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ars 3y ago
I googled ^D and didn't find any other meaning other than ctrl-D? Some places said a D is short for Dick, but I don't see why that would be especially offensive to abuse victims because it seems to be used in a flirtatious way, not an abusive way.
- animal_spirits 3y ago
  To give context, it's a reference to "getting the D" or "giving the D" which is slang for getting/giving someone 'dick' which is inappropriate considering this is a post about terminals.
libsareanimals 3y ago
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HopenHeyHi 3y ago

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joshl32532 3y ago

This is why tech bro culture persist.

AdieuToLogic 3y ago
> This is why tech bro culture persist. Because one person on the Internet interpreted a title as a double entendre and said so?
- deleted 3y ago
  [deleted]
- joshl32532 3y ago
  I have nothing to say if you insist that phrase is not a sexual innuendo. There's so many ways to phrase the title, but the author has to use https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Getting%20the%20D https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Getting%20th....

lifthrasiir 3y ago

I initially didn't get either of you, all I can think of was a half-face emoticon. It turns out that "getting the D" means something (I'll refrain from explaining this), and with this context "take a joke" is really unacceptable---it means you know the joke and you think it's fine, which isn't.

xoac 3y ago
I don’t really get why this is so offensive. It’s some guy’s webpage, where we are just visitors, on which he has shared some knowledge with a title that plays on a double entendre. It’s not about taking a joke as it’s not something addressed to you at all. People need to stop being hall monitors on the internet. Just close the page, move on.
mdp2021 3y ago
The title makes some absolute sense, so it is per se acceptable. You may take this case as a reminder to remain focused and disregard unnecessary potential lateral reads.
- lifthrasiir 3y ago
  I didn't take offense to the title; it is not even clear whether the author intended that joke (I didn't know that phrase so could the author). I merely pointed out that, if you think the author intended this particular joke, then it is inappropriate to say "take [the] joke".
arpa 3y ago
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