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The usual boring response on that, but which I found always more true every day, is that you've got to enjoy the path forward to actually be happy. When looking
by maigret 15y ago
The usual boring response on that, but which I found always more true every day, is that you've got to enjoy the path forward to actually be happy. When looking back to my life, I think the moments I were going forward were the happy times - the ones backward were a bit harder.
You've got to decouple your happiness sentiment from your overall self-worth. People's happiness doesn't grow much once they've got 50000$ a year a famous study said. But one's self-worth still grows when millions of $ are adding. Once you've conscious of the difference between the two, you start decoupling a bit your happiness from your success. Of course, you can't totally, but letting things a bit loose helps your health, stress, and life quality. Trying too much is dangerous.
Last, don't forget life isn't undimensional (god would that be boring if so). Beside the success you define, there are friends, love, entertainment elsewhere. It's not a path, rather a space where you can go to many many directions additionally to the success strategy you define for yourself.
- Swizec 15y agoOh I'm not talking about money at all. I find money to be simply a side-product of things I want to do that I consider successful. But, for example, I want to publish a book. I know for a fact as soon as I publish it, I will be all mad at myself because it isn't a bestseller. Once a book becomes a bestseller, I'll be mad at myself that why haven't I written two bestsellers yet? When I have two bestsellers I'll be upset that why didn't I put more deep meaning in them and wrote trash. Or to take an example I've already got the "achievement unlocked" on. My blog gets ten times more monthly traffic than it did a few months ago, but I get really upset with myself why I no longer seem to be able to produce regular-ish spikes like I used to? Or that one post that got insane traffic, why can't I write something as good/popular anymore? Things like that. I'm the kind of person that honestly enjoys the journey, but I just always want more more more. As for money, eh, I'll be happy when I can simply not worry about that. Money isn't something to be happy about, money is a tool to do cool things with.