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"She can earn her phone or computer when she publishes an app on the App Store." I don't understand how building a piece of software that Apple is willing to p
by JamisonM 4y ago
"She can earn her phone or computer when she publishes an app on the App Store."
I don't understand how building a piece of software that Apple is willing to publish on the App Store makes your daughter emotionally prepared for social media.
I don't have any problem with gatekeeping minors' access to social media (although I would be much more liberal in this area than you) but this metric seems absolutely bonkers to me. My heuristic from my own personal development would be that the earlier I was able to make some commercially viable software the later you should push my access to social media... my coding ability was never an indicator of my defenses against the common ills of social media for kids as I understand them!
- gonehome 4y agoI’d expect this kind of control to create resentment and poorly equip the kids to deal with the nuances/risks of access. Probably depends on the kid, but I would have hated it and it would have likely made me not want to engage at all. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactance_(psychology) https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reactance_(psychology) You have so little autonomy or trust and respect as a kid, that period of life sucks.
- adastra22 4y agoYou are misreading intent. When she is able to productively use computers as computational tools, she can have one. There has to be a positive to balance the negative.
- JamisonM 4y agoThat's interesting because if you set that out as a goal.. then what, right? What you'd like is on-going productive use once unlimited access is granted if your goal is balance. My inclination would be to be giving "homework" all the time, so the hours get split up somehow and aren't just spent of frivolous things once the privileges are acquired.