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For better or for worse?

adamredwoods 4y ago
Both. It's the journey that counts, and it's a difficult one.
spacedcowboy 4y ago
The first few months were a living hell, compounded by myself and my wife not living close to family. Knowing its on you, and only on you can be hard. Ever since then it's been pretty good... Now he's 11, it's all about him figuring stuff out, and it's kind of awesome to see the thinking going on when he's trying for malicious compliance... Which I let him get away with, as long as it's within the rules he was given. No better way to train a brain :)
JohnFen 4y ago
Some changes are definitely worse, and some are better. Overall, my experience is that it's a net win.
viggos_son 4y ago
It's like running a startup. Hard but fulfilling. You don't do a startup because it was going to be easy. Highs and lows. In both cases you are crafting something deeply personal. Both take commitment and sheer will. Having the right co-founder is paramount.
- doubled112 4y ago
  What if you don't find it fulfilling? What is left?
  - ChainOfFools 4y ago
    The future of the world, or at least the portion of it influenced by a probablistic power factor as it applies to your offspring. If you choose not to have children, don't worry, other people will more than make up for your genetic absence. Not necessarily the ones who are helping contribute to a promising future for humanity.
nugget 4y ago
“They say sufferings are misfortunes, but if I was asked whether I would stay as I was before I was taken prisoner, Or go through it all again, I would say, "For God's sake, let me be a prisoner again”. For me, when our lives are knocked off course, we imagine everything in them is lost. But it is only the start of something new and good. As long as there is life, there is happiness. There is a great deal. A great deal still to come.” - Tolstoy in War and Peace
vyrotek 4y ago
Yes
meepmorp 4y ago
For me, far better. And that's not something I expected, nor could I have explained the experience even to myself from beforehand.

Both. It's the journey that counts, and it's a difficult one.

The first few months were a living hell, compounded by myself and my wife not living close to family. Knowing its on you, and only on you can be hard. Ever since then it's been pretty good... Now he's 11, it's all about him figuring stuff out, and it's kind of awesome to see the thinking going on when he's trying for malicious compliance... Which I let him get away with, as long as it's within the rules he was given. No better way to train a brain :)

JohnFen 4y ago

Some changes are definitely worse, and some are better. Overall, my experience is that it's a net win.

viggos_son 4y ago

It's like running a startup. Hard but fulfilling. You don't do a startup because it was going to be easy. Highs and lows. In both cases you are crafting something deeply personal. Both take commitment and sheer will. Having the right co-founder is paramount.

doubled112 4y ago
What if you don't find it fulfilling? What is left?
- ChainOfFools 4y ago
  The future of the world, or at least the portion of it influenced by a probablistic power factor as it applies to your offspring. If you choose not to have children, don't worry, other people will more than make up for your genetic absence. Not necessarily the ones who are helping contribute to a promising future for humanity.

nugget 4y ago

“They say sufferings are misfortunes, but if I was asked whether I would stay as I was before I was taken prisoner, Or go through it all again, I would say, "For God's sake, let me be a prisoner again”. For me, when our lives are knocked off course, we imagine everything in them is lost. But it is only the start of something new and good. As long as there is life, there is happiness. There is a great deal. A great deal still to come.” - Tolstoy in War and Peace

vyrotek 4y ago

Yes

meepmorp 4y ago

For me, far better. And that's not something I expected, nor could I have explained the experience even to myself from beforehand.