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“At the end of our life our questions are simple: Did I live fully? Did I love well?” — Jack Kornfield

• ip26 4y ago
  I have been inculcated to ask those questions, yet I don’t even know the answer nor how to answer, let alone how to do it.
  • dangwhy 4y ago
    Don't worry about it. Who cares about that final 1% of your life. Why is all important that we model all our life around the thoughts in in that final 1%. Your brain prably isn't working that well anyways to have some sort of profound transcendal thoughts. Most ppl just thinking about mostly nothing in particular.
  • TedDoesntTalk 4y ago
    For me, the answer to those questions lies in my relationships. Even the ones that go sour: did you love well? Did you have a lot of quality time with them? Realize that every relationship (family, friends, lovers, spouses) ends in separation. Every one, whether through estrangement or death. And that is natural and normal. Not depressing. Just is.
• hklgny 4y ago
  This is reductive in that it implies if the answers are yes you won’t be the one sitting in bed screaming or drugged up. I’ve seen this situation enough (whole family works in hospice) to know it’s not the case. Do the best you can, but at the end of the day you either go super fast or it’s super scary and often painful. Drugs help.
  • TedDoesntTalk 4y ago
    > This is reductive > at the end of the day you either go super fast or it’s super scary Ironically, I find this statement reductive and unnuanced, not the Jack Kornfield quote. You have no idea how the people you observed screaming in fear lived and loved in their lives.
    • hklgny 4y ago
      In that moment, I also don’t really care how they did. It has absolutely nothing to do with how they end up passing, the pain they’re feeling or the level of stress they’re under. To suggest otherwise is crazy and disrespectful.