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Your kids are not stupid, you know. Just as you learn from your environments, they will learn what is right from wrong. Indoctrination is the wrong word because

Your kids are not stupid, you know. Just as you learn from your environments, they will learn what is right from wrong. Indoctrination is the wrong word because the grandparent would not be the ones spending a majority of the time with the children. The children’s friends, classmates and teachers are the ones who will “indoctrinate” your child. Instead you are teaching that it is ok removing your grandparents from their lives because of boogiemen .. and that they will emulate your footsteps one day. That’s my outlook on it, and I don’t push family values on others. So take it with as many grains of salt as necessary

Timon3 4y ago
The danger with this line of thinking is that it ignores the adaptability of humans, especially in younger years. None of us are fully rational actors, and all of us are influenced by what is around us. Sure, the degree will change based on a lot of factors and on the individuals positions - but even if you're staunchly against an idea, hearing it day in day out will over time affect your thinking, and not in a way you can consciously control. Interestingly enough, this is even acknowledged in a lot of folksy wisdom (e.g. "you are what you eat", or the very common idea of parents that children shouldn't hang out "with bad crowds", although the definition of what this is differs between parents).
paulryanrogers 4y ago
My parents had a huge influence on me, because kids are impressionable. My kids are homeschooled for now (don't recommend) so having their grandparents here 24/7 means the grandparents would have more time with my own kids than any other human. IME, indoctrination happens in the home more than anywhere else. Having attended public school I think the outside perspectives and opinions are the only reason I (eventually) escaped the believe-without-seeing cult, yet it took more than 15 years of being out of that house.
cmonnow 4y ago
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Timon3 4y ago

The danger with this line of thinking is that it ignores the adaptability of humans, especially in younger years. None of us are fully rational actors, and all of us are influenced by what is around us. Sure, the degree will change based on a lot of factors and on the individuals positions - but even if you're staunchly against an idea, hearing it day in day out will over time affect your thinking, and not in a way you can consciously control. Interestingly enough, this is even acknowledged in a lot of folksy wisdom (e.g. "you are what you eat", or the very common idea of parents that children shouldn't hang out "with bad crowds", although the definition of what this is differs between parents).

paulryanrogers 4y ago

My parents had a huge influence on me, because kids are impressionable. My kids are homeschooled for now (don't recommend) so having their grandparents here 24/7 means the grandparents would have more time with my own kids than any other human. IME, indoctrination happens in the home more than anywhere else. Having attended public school I think the outside perspectives and opinions are the only reason I (eventually) escaped the believe-without-seeing cult, yet it took more than 15 years of being out of that house.

cmonnow 4y ago

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