I think that there may be some specifics that matter (that I may have glossed over). Note that this is talking mostly about women in their 30s, but also women

I think that there may be some specifics that matter (that I may have glossed over). Note that this is talking mostly about women in their 30s, but also women in their late 20s and early 40s: - If you’re doing omiai or some proxy thereof, then the push to committing to long term relationships is real. Sex is not really a goal with that process. - It’s important to know if the date event is known by her family and friends or not. If so, that’s almost like omiai (esp. for women in their 30s), and it puts a lot of pressure on the two of you. They will be questioned non-stop about the date. It’s really unhealthy, imho. - It’s important to be able to hang out in a place where their friends and family are not likely to find out about the date. This takes a lot of pressure off the woman. This is easy to do in places like Tokyo, but maybe not as easy in towns and smaller cities. - It’s important to have your own place, imho. It can be awkward and less easy if the guy lives with his parents. Love hotels are nice sometimes, but they are not good for a regular thing, imho. - Many/most of the Japanese women I dated definitely looked for early commitment, but you have to take that with a grain of salt. Most of them just don’t want to be used for sex only (although some do seek that out), and that’s understandable. That said, you can set reasonable expectations (e.g., “i’m really enjoying getting to know you, and I look forward to more”), and break it off if and when it doesn’t seem right for you. - I’m not sure if you are Japanese or gaijin, and if gaijin, where you are from. Some nationalities are less popular and/or have very narrow groups who are interested in them. Just find someone like you who has game, and try to do what they do. If you are gaijin, make sure you Japanese is on point. Japan is a very different place (mostly better, imho) when you can speak Japanese. - Related, go with your friends to places where people go with their friends to unwind and have fun. I have found it very easy to meet people like that — inhibitions are down. Anyway, best of luck!