I must be walking under a silver lined cloud; I've had an original droid since launch day over 2 years ago, and now an ICS Galaxy Nexus since launch day, and th

I must be walking under a silver lined cloud; I've had an original droid since launch day over 2 years ago, and now an ICS Galaxy Nexus since launch day, and the Exchange integration has been better than my Windows PC, by and large. I've never had any of the issues you mention. I don't doubt you've had them, but I have not. I frequently get "dinged" on my phone for new email before Outlook. (I will admit that deleting a mail on outlook takes up to 5 minutes to "be gone" on the Android.) But never any calendar issues. Never any dropped mails. Never any needs to "hard reset". Lookups work as well on my phone as they do on outlook, for me.