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> who is not cognizant that wanting/rejecting sexual or romantic partners is an act of discrimination? The commenter above, who said "older ladies need to show

> who is not cognizant that wanting/rejecting sexual or romantic partners is an act of discrimination? The commenter above, who said "older ladies need to show some youthfulness" and "they seem like they have one foot in the grave to me" could have been a bit more cognizant.

snozolli 4y ago
The commenter who said "older ladies need to show some youthfulness" and "they seem like they have one foot in the grave to me" could have been a bit more cognizant. You're misrepresenting what he wrote.
- athrowaway1324 4y ago
  What part of: "older ladies need to show some youthfulness. Some people have clearly given up in middle age in terms of taking care of themselves and doing interesting things. I’m not interested in these folks — they seem like they have one foot in the grave to me" did I misrepresent with my selected quotations? I'm glad they're frank about their preferences, it's just how they choose to phrase it was just a little tactless, that's all. These are actual human people we're talking about, not just meat. Dating has real economic consequences, and this commenter seemed to get an inappropriate amount of enjoyment out of -- what I'd argue at least is -- kicking people down due to a protected characteristic (age). So yes, their comment is a decent example of the lack of perspective I was discussing.
  - snozolli 4y ago
    You left out the part which allowed you to misrepresent him as being ageist! Some people have clearly given up in middle age in terms of taking care of themselves and doing interesting things. I’m not interested in these folks As for your condescending "people, not meat" comment, WTF? The guy doesn't want to be with a sad sack. Guess what? He's human, too, and he doesn't have to resign himself to the sad sack state of others just for the sake of their humanity.

snozolli 4y ago

The commenter who said "older ladies need to show some youthfulness" and "they seem like they have one foot in the grave to me" could have been a bit more cognizant. You're misrepresenting what he wrote.

athrowaway1324 4y ago
What part of: "older ladies need to show some youthfulness. Some people have clearly given up in middle age in terms of taking care of themselves and doing interesting things. I’m not interested in these folks — they seem like they have one foot in the grave to me" did I misrepresent with my selected quotations? I'm glad they're frank about their preferences, it's just how they choose to phrase it was just a little tactless, that's all. These are actual human people we're talking about, not just meat. Dating has real economic consequences, and this commenter seemed to get an inappropriate amount of enjoyment out of -- what I'd argue at least is -- kicking people down due to a protected characteristic (age). So yes, their comment is a decent example of the lack of perspective I was discussing.
- snozolli 4y ago
  You left out the part which allowed you to misrepresent him as being ageist! Some people have clearly given up in middle age in terms of taking care of themselves and doing interesting things. I’m not interested in these folks As for your condescending "people, not meat" comment, WTF? The guy doesn't want to be with a sad sack. Guess what? He's human, too, and he doesn't have to resign himself to the sad sack state of others just for the sake of their humanity.