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> Like, 5'9" is average. It’s not even short, to begin with. I agree it's stupid, but I suppose the name of the game from the male perspective is to (at least

> Like, 5'9" is average. It’s not even short, to begin with. I agree it's stupid, but I suppose the name of the game from the male perspective is to (at least appear to) be above average. Honesty is the best policy, but I can't help but be curious about what online dating would be like if everyone was in fact honest? Most people are average, by definition, yet selective pressure in dating is for everyone to seek out those that are better than average, even though they themselves may not meet that lofty goal.

klodolph 4y ago
> I agree it's stupid, but I suppose the name of the game from the male perspective is to (at least appear to) be above average. I can be sympathetic to the reasoning where men feel like that’s the name of the game, but (as the saying goes) it’s a stupid game, and if you play it, you win stupid prizes. Someone who lies about their height to puff themselves up, to a typical observer, will appear to be insecure. Like, that’s the kind of insecurity you’d see exaggerated in a sitcom to make people laugh! My observation is that people who build build good relationships don’t ask for this kind of external validation, they don’t try to appear impressive to complete strangers, instead, they meet somebody and leave the platform. If your goal on Tindr is to “win Tindr” (which seems to be some people’s goal), your behavior is going to keep landing you back on the platform, where you “win”, instead of landing you in a relationship.
- tsss 4y ago
  I don't think you understand how dire the situation is for most men. If you don't lie you don't get anywhere near a match. Doesn't matter how honest and self confident and secure you are. You won't get the match. If you do lie, then you have small chance at least, especially since most women will happily filter <6" guys but can't tell the difference in real life.

klodolph 4y ago

> I agree it's stupid, but I suppose the name of the game from the male perspective is to (at least appear to) be above average. I can be sympathetic to the reasoning where men feel like that’s the name of the game, but (as the saying goes) it’s a stupid game, and if you play it, you win stupid prizes. Someone who lies about their height to puff themselves up, to a typical observer, will appear to be insecure. Like, that’s the kind of insecurity you’d see exaggerated in a sitcom to make people laugh! My observation is that people who build build good relationships don’t ask for this kind of external validation, they don’t try to appear impressive to complete strangers, instead, they meet somebody and leave the platform. If your goal on Tindr is to “win Tindr” (which seems to be some people’s goal), your behavior is going to keep landing you back on the platform, where you “win”, instead of landing you in a relationship.

tsss 4y ago
I don't think you understand how dire the situation is for most men. If you don't lie you don't get anywhere near a match. Doesn't matter how honest and self confident and secure you are. You won't get the match. If you do lie, then you have small chance at least, especially since most women will happily filter <6" guys but can't tell the difference in real life.