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>>> FWIW, as someone 5'8", I also filter out women who are taller than me. As a man, would you filter out taller women if you are casually dating? I think the

>>> FWIW, as someone 5'8", I also filter out women who are taller than me. As a man, would you filter out taller women if you are casually dating? I think the preferences also depends on what you are looking for.

TechBro8615 4y ago
Yes, but just because that's my preference and I'm not *that* short. Most girls are shorter than me. If I were 5'3" or something, then it would obviously be more difficult to have such a preference. I do feel a lot of empathy for those guys.
kevin_thibedeau 4y ago
Many taller women have a dismissive attitude toward anyone shorter than them. I once had a 6'1" woman become infatuated with me. She let it be known that someone taller than me was "too short". It isn't worth the bother fighting against instinct. Of course woe to the man who expresses equivalent arbitrary requirements on fixed physical attributes in their selection criteria.
- opportune 4y ago
  I’d caution against universalizing these preferences. I’m dating someone an inch taller than me and height so far isn’t a problem. I’d be sad if I didn’t meet her because of worrying about what she’d think about my height
  - truncate 4y ago
    It's more of an outlier than a norm IMO. It is wrong to say everyone has particular preference about height, but for majority there is IMO, even though it's not what we want to see/hear. I was significantly more successful in dating, when I had height filter set to women 2 inch shorter than me (right from getting matches).
    - opportune 4y ago
      That may be true but the last three of four women I went on dates with were about my height (5’10) and it’s not something I ever consciously sought out. I do think that’s an outlier considering last time I was single all my dates were shorter than me, but I’d have had much fewer options lately if I had imposed that restriction on myself. If you are doing it for dating app “elo” purposes that’s more understandable though.

TechBro8615 4y ago

Yes, but just because that's my preference and I'm not *that* short. Most girls are shorter than me. If I were 5'3" or something, then it would obviously be more difficult to have such a preference. I do feel a lot of empathy for those guys.

kevin_thibedeau 4y ago

Many taller women have a dismissive attitude toward anyone shorter than them. I once had a 6'1" woman become infatuated with me. She let it be known that someone taller than me was "too short". It isn't worth the bother fighting against instinct. Of course woe to the man who expresses equivalent arbitrary requirements on fixed physical attributes in their selection criteria.

opportune 4y ago
I’d caution against universalizing these preferences. I’m dating someone an inch taller than me and height so far isn’t a problem. I’d be sad if I didn’t meet her because of worrying about what she’d think about my height
- truncate 4y ago
  It's more of an outlier than a norm IMO. It is wrong to say everyone has particular preference about height, but for majority there is IMO, even though it's not what we want to see/hear. I was significantly more successful in dating, when I had height filter set to women 2 inch shorter than me (right from getting matches).
  - opportune 4y ago
    That may be true but the last three of four women I went on dates with were about my height (5’10) and it’s not something I ever consciously sought out. I do think that’s an outlier considering last time I was single all my dates were shorter than me, but I’d have had much fewer options lately if I had imposed that restriction on myself. If you are doing it for dating app “elo” purposes that’s more understandable though.