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Online dating is hard. One hand you have the: Standards and practices of the site you have their standards of your preferences. I.e. Don't like trans people an
by monksy 4y ago
Online dating is hard.
One hand you have the: Standards and practices of the site you have their standards of your preferences. I.e. Don't like trans people and have bad/ignorant opinions or stances about them? You could get easily removed and restricted from the site. (That is not my stance.. but it causes people to hide what their preferences are and it causes you bad experiences with people who you don't click with) In Chicago and a trumper? You're going to have a bad time stating your preference/likewise for the opposite in the biblebelt.
Another: You have encourage groups of people who put little effort or intent in maintaining a profile
Another: You have to know what your audience who you don't know yet wants and how they want to be approached.
Another: Scammers not taken care of quickly.
Online dating is a garbage place.
- mjevans 4y ago(self) introspection is also hard. An end user may not even consciously know they have a filter, nor the relative weight of that filter (people are often analog, outside of extreme subjects). The site might not even capture a variable that's important. E.G. it isn't mandatory to answer if someone enjoys kelp basket weaving; which might be someone's favorite hobby. However that's extremely niche and people in the data set would probably outright skip over that question entirely as well as related questions that might composite towards a value in that field. Or maybe it's like gardening but there's so much ambiguity about the scale and seriousness that asking a question doesn't provide good results outside of an interactive conversation.
- monksy 4y agoI would love to date someone that was enthusastic about kelp basket weaving. That's a major positive compared to someone that "is a pam looking for her sam" or whatever that guys name is.
- tomp 4y agoI don't understand what's bad/wrong with filtering out trans people (except that it's contra the mainstream woke agenda). What if you're dating to have (biological) kids?
- monksy 4y agoIt goes against their rules and conduct guidelines based on emotional manipulation hinged on intrinsic values that Americans hold on fairness, equality, and societal support for 'disadvantaged' individuals. I have a feeling someone is going to reply with a hostile response, but my root stance at an OLD is to support people being who they are and help people get together consensually to get it on.
- 4gotunameagain 4y agoI would definitely like to keep some non-existing ideals of fairness and equality in America out of my bedroom and personal life. This is spilling over to non-Americans as well. As for the lack of existence of societal support for 'disadvantaged' individuals, have you seen the practically modern slave labour in prisons ? Have you seen the homelessness and opioid epidemics that nothing is being done for ? I would much rather help these folks before helping social media addicted upper middle class kids. They have enough help already.
- cmh89 4y ago>I would definitely like to keep some non-existing ideals of fairness and equality in America out of my bedroom and personal life Don't use American services then? Unless I'm missing something, you don't have to use any online dating platform at all, more so not one that is based in the United States.
- 4gotunameagain 4y agoThis is not exactly how imperialism works. The export of American culture is the most massive export of culture humanity has experienced. It is simply unavoidable in the West.
- cmh89 4y agoAh, so you mean most be actually enjoy it and don't share your concern.