Having a friend does it mean that you have access to that friend all of the time or even most of the time. Adult friendships are usually held by people who have

Having a friend does it mean that you have access to that friend all of the time or even most of the time. Adult friendships are usually held by people who have very busy lives with their family and other friends. There are a lot of popular tropes and memes about adult friendship being a series of “we should catch up soon” back and forth until one of you dies. It doesn’t mean the friendships aren’t real. But having children and a job can pretty much suck the oxygen completely out of the ability to have and maintain frequent contact with friends. I’m in my 50s and have several friends that I would consider very very good friends. We all have very different schedules and family obligations. If I’m very lucky, I might see them once a month. This isn’t like college when you might see your friend every day for several hours. So if you’re a single person and your friends have families, it’s real possible to be lonely in the spaces between when you get to spend time with your friends.