I wonder if it's not also the comment format, that is not a full retranscription of the discussion they had, that brings this "ask" to an autoritative verb. The

I wonder if it's not also the comment format, that is not a full retranscription of the discussion they had, that brings this "ask" to an autoritative verb. The discussion may very well have been "I asked her if she wanted to get off the pill", and the parent took a shortcut on writing. I did this, and I'm now vasectomized, but even without this operation, the deal was always "I think this may be harmful to you, I would suggest to stop taking it, but that's your move. If you're taking it for contraceptive reasons, we can figure out something else". But this makes for a way longer comment, when you are replying quickly to a topic to provide an opinion on a subject.