> "I want to do X" actually means "I want to have done X," I co-authored a book with someone, which ended up meaning I did 90% of the work and they could be p

> "I want to do X" actually means "I want to have done X," I co-authored a book with someone, which ended up meaning I did 90% of the work and they could be prodded with considerable effort to contribute in a few areas and give feedback. But they were thrilled to have been an author and hand out copies etc. No real harm from my angle. I have no issue with them being a co-author. Doesn't hurt me. But a perfect example of this principle. A former boss at a small company was a somewhat similar example. They liked being a $X. They came to not like doing the work of being a $X.