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Meh. It's not particularly controversial so you're being overly dramatic. I didn't force anyone, we had an adult conversation about it and all my gfs were on t

Meh. It's not particularly controversial so you're being overly dramatic. I didn't force anyone, we had an adult conversation about it and all my gfs were on the same page. If any one of my gfs wanted to stay on contraceptives in the first place, then great, I would still do the exact same thing to avoid getting her pregnant in case she missed a day, etc. My wife wasn't on contraceptives in the first place so it was basically a non-conversation. I think having an adult conversation is basic expectations for any healthy relationship. If you interpret broaching a subject as being cause for breaking up with someone... well, that's your prerogative.

warent 4y ago
Communication is a two way road. When you're talking about a sensitive topic and people don't know the context of you who are, don't be surprised when you are interpreted in a negative light. Based on your schoolyard dismissiveness here, it looks like they're spot on and you don't actually care much for adult conversations. You can dismiss that all you want but when people view us negatively in situations like this, it only hurts ourselves, so it's usually our responsibility to communicate better
- blindriver 4y ago
  I don't feel the need to expend energy on anyone who immediately takes an overly negative opinion on a fairly benign sentence. We both know that nothing I say will change anyone's opinion, so why pretend that I should defend myself?
fsckboy 4y ago
> Meh. It's not particularly controversial so you're being overly dramatic. you're denying you have any unconscious motivation to "be controlling," as you again display in your response to GP's reasonable personal opinion.
- blindriver 4y ago
  I thought the overly negative response unreasonable, and I have enough experience on the Internet to know that nothing I write will change their opinion, so I don't want to extend the conversation. I don't feel any particular need to defend my "Internet honor" and if anyone wants to interpret my post as some Handmaid's Tale order for women to submit to my demands, well that's their prerogative.
lazyasciiart 4y ago
Asking someone to change their medication because of the longterm health implications is not just broaching a subject. It is saying that you both have the same information and you believe they have come to the wrong decision - or, more likely, you believe you have better information on the topic and she should be guided by your wisdom. If you can’t tell the difference between that and “broaching a topic”, well, that’s not terribly unusual. If what you think you actually did was “tell all my girlfriends that I will be a completely reliable partner in behavioral contraception so that she would be safe from pregnancy without hormonal birth control, and then go away secure in the knowledge that she could make this decision based on her own evaluation of the risks and benefits of being on hormonal birth control, which are for many women far more extensive than preventing pregnancy”, well, that would be much higher communication skills and awareness on the topic than you’ve demonstrated here. (Emphasis on the “because of their long term health” reasoning, because asking them to change because of exterior impacts can make sense)

warent 4y ago

Communication is a two way road. When you're talking about a sensitive topic and people don't know the context of you who are, don't be surprised when you are interpreted in a negative light. Based on your schoolyard dismissiveness here, it looks like they're spot on and you don't actually care much for adult conversations. You can dismiss that all you want but when people view us negatively in situations like this, it only hurts ourselves, so it's usually our responsibility to communicate better

blindriver 4y ago
I don't feel the need to expend energy on anyone who immediately takes an overly negative opinion on a fairly benign sentence. We both know that nothing I say will change anyone's opinion, so why pretend that I should defend myself?

fsckboy 4y ago

> Meh. It's not particularly controversial so you're being overly dramatic. you're denying you have any unconscious motivation to "be controlling," as you again display in your response to GP's reasonable personal opinion.

blindriver 4y ago
I thought the overly negative response unreasonable, and I have enough experience on the Internet to know that nothing I write will change their opinion, so I don't want to extend the conversation. I don't feel any particular need to defend my "Internet honor" and if anyone wants to interpret my post as some Handmaid's Tale order for women to submit to my demands, well that's their prerogative.

lazyasciiart 4y ago

Asking someone to change their medication because of the longterm health implications is not just broaching a subject. It is saying that you both have the same information and you believe they have come to the wrong decision - or, more likely, you believe you have better information on the topic and she should be guided by your wisdom. If you can’t tell the difference between that and “broaching a topic”, well, that’s not terribly unusual. If what you think you actually did was “tell all my girlfriends that I will be a completely reliable partner in behavioral contraception so that she would be safe from pregnancy without hormonal birth control, and then go away secure in the knowledge that she could make this decision based on her own evaluation of the risks and benefits of being on hormonal birth control, which are for many women far more extensive than preventing pregnancy”, well, that would be much higher communication skills and awareness on the topic than you’ve demonstrated here. (Emphasis on the “because of their long term health” reasoning, because asking them to change because of exterior impacts can make sense)