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> Maybe it's all about context, I'm not sure +100 For everyone the circumstances and relationship dynamics are different. And it's kind of disheartening to r

> Maybe it's all about context, I'm not sure +100 For everyone the circumstances and relationship dynamics are different. And it's kind of disheartening to read a well-intentioned comment, see people assuming their own completely different context and then getting slightly aggressive about it.

emodendroket 4y ago
Well, we've also been given the context that at least one person in the relationship got upset with the demand.
warent 4y ago
It's only disheartening to me because woman live in a society where men perpetually behave like we know what's best for them. What you're reading as aggression, I'm reading as a reasonable response to a perfectly plausible alternative interpretation, which is that he knows what's best for his girlfriends better than they do for themselves. So many men have this corrupt mode of thinking that there is now an entire US state issuing bounties on women seeking control over their own bodies.
- tines 4y ago
  > woman live in a society where men perpetually behave like we know what's best for them. Everyone lives in a society where everyone else behaves like they know what's best for them. Men currently happen to have more power to enact their plans, but it's about power, not about gender, and all people who seek power think that they know best.
- hdjjhhvvhga 4y ago
  > a perfectly plausible alternative interpretation, which is that he knows what's best for his girlfriends better than they do for themselves. We are literally commenting on the article confirming using hormonal contraceptives increases the risk of cancer. So if your partner is using these you basically have two options: 1) ignore the issue and maybe not even mention it to her as this could be misinterpreted as influencing her decision, 2) address it out of pure concern for her future, even years ahead when you're no longer together.
  - lazyasciiart 4y ago
    3) bring it up to make sure she is aware of this possibly new information, and assume she will use it to inform her decision making? What do you think I meant by providing input to her decision? What on earth made you pull out the straw man that you can’t even influence them?
throwntoday 4y ago
Go to any relationship subreddit and you'll see countless comments where the slightest misstep is treated as some indellible sin. It's terrifying how quickly these people would forsake a loved one. So many unbelievably jaded and cynical people influencing the thoughts of others.

emodendroket 4y ago

Well, we've also been given the context that at least one person in the relationship got upset with the demand.

warent 4y ago

It's only disheartening to me because woman live in a society where men perpetually behave like we know what's best for them. What you're reading as aggression, I'm reading as a reasonable response to a perfectly plausible alternative interpretation, which is that he knows what's best for his girlfriends better than they do for themselves. So many men have this corrupt mode of thinking that there is now an entire US state issuing bounties on women seeking control over their own bodies.

tines 4y ago
> woman live in a society where men perpetually behave like we know what's best for them. Everyone lives in a society where everyone else behaves like they know what's best for them. Men currently happen to have more power to enact their plans, but it's about power, not about gender, and all people who seek power think that they know best.
hdjjhhvvhga 4y ago
> a perfectly plausible alternative interpretation, which is that he knows what's best for his girlfriends better than they do for themselves. We are literally commenting on the article confirming using hormonal contraceptives increases the risk of cancer. So if your partner is using these you basically have two options: 1) ignore the issue and maybe not even mention it to her as this could be misinterpreted as influencing her decision, 2) address it out of pure concern for her future, even years ahead when you're no longer together.
- lazyasciiart 4y ago
  3) bring it up to make sure she is aware of this possibly new information, and assume she will use it to inform her decision making? What do you think I meant by providing input to her decision? What on earth made you pull out the straw man that you can’t even influence them?

throwntoday 4y ago

Go to any relationship subreddit and you'll see countless comments where the slightest misstep is treated as some indellible sin. It's terrifying how quickly these people would forsake a loved one. So many unbelievably jaded and cynical people influencing the thoughts of others.