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I don't think this solves the loneliness problem and seems more of a fad idea. I think of my relationships with people in two categories, you have your "real"

I don't think this solves the loneliness problem and seems more of a fad idea. I think of my relationships with people in two categories, you have your "real" friends, and you have your convenient friends. The only reason you are targeting your coworkers or colleagues because they are the most convenient people near you. People are lonely because they don't have "real" friends. I think of "real" friends are people who just care about you. Who notie you are not in a good mood. Who know they havnt talked to you in a few days/weeks and reach out to see how you're doing. People who would wake pick you up at the airport or to help you move. A lot of this is a cutural thing. In the US, the culture is very individualistic and independent. It's more about "me" and less about "us". This is all my opinion, but I have also thought about this a lot too.

thehappyyeti 4y ago
Hey hitsurume, I agree. But don’t you think convenient friends are the gateway to “real” friends? Some of my work friends from my previous job have become lifelong friends. And even though we all work at different places now, we still put in the effort to hang out from time to time. We would even call each other now and then. I think there is an emergence of the idea of “camaraderie” and “togetherness” as the individualistic culture is slowly being phased away. IMO people now more than ever are looking for communities and are longing for deep human connections. Maybe I’m just naive, but I do believe that as we usher in the era of artificial, people will crave more authentic experiences.
- hitsurume 4y ago
  I don't think you're naive and I agree that finding that type of community can foster unity and real friendships. But I don't think it'll be forged via common interests. I think it needs to be forged by common purpose. Your colleages that are now good friends, what united you guys? Was it because you were on the same team and would get lunch together? Was it the weekly happy hour after work that allowed you to share and connet? If you want to drop your email, would be happy to hypothesize and theorize these more about this topic. '
  - thehappyyeti 4y ago
    This is true to some degree, I've made a few really good friends within my team but also beyond my team through common interests. I've seen people make really really good lasting connections over things like foosball, Magic the Gathering, and sports, so I really do think there's something there. I'd love that! My email is justincuaresma (at) gmail.com :)

thehappyyeti 4y ago

Hey hitsurume, I agree. But don’t you think convenient friends are the gateway to “real” friends? Some of my work friends from my previous job have become lifelong friends. And even though we all work at different places now, we still put in the effort to hang out from time to time. We would even call each other now and then. I think there is an emergence of the idea of “camaraderie” and “togetherness” as the individualistic culture is slowly being phased away. IMO people now more than ever are looking for communities and are longing for deep human connections. Maybe I’m just naive, but I do believe that as we usher in the era of artificial, people will crave more authentic experiences.

hitsurume 4y ago
I don't think you're naive and I agree that finding that type of community can foster unity and real friendships. But I don't think it'll be forged via common interests. I think it needs to be forged by common purpose. Your colleages that are now good friends, what united you guys? Was it because you were on the same team and would get lunch together? Was it the weekly happy hour after work that allowed you to share and connet? If you want to drop your email, would be happy to hypothesize and theorize these more about this topic. '
- thehappyyeti 4y ago
  This is true to some degree, I've made a few really good friends within my team but also beyond my team through common interests. I've seen people make really really good lasting connections over things like foosball, Magic the Gathering, and sports, so I really do think there's something there. I'd love that! My email is justincuaresma (at) gmail.com :)