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I'm glad your child is learning valuable social lessons. If anything, I learned how to appease people to fit in and make them like me at school. It wasn't unt
by nraf 4y ago
I'm glad your child is learning valuable social lessons.
If anything, I learned how to appease people to fit in and make them like me at school.
It wasn't until the last 2-3 years (I'm in my thirties now) after on a startup for the past 7 years that I started to better understand, explore and comprehend my personal psychology.
It was until these last couple years that I learned that it’s not job to fix problems between people and that often it just makes things worse.
- withinboredom 4y agoSounds like you are human. Hello human. Men don’t really get the ability to (truly) grasp abstract ideas until the late twenties. Women get that ability earlier. In our thirties (all humans) learn to apply that abstract thinking to ourselves. In our forties, our heart finally stops growing and we become a full adult. Never discount your past, no matter how terrible and/or great it was. It’s part of who you are, part of what makes you, you. Embrace it, learn from it, and look forward. Yes, that is easier said than done.
- ZephyrBlu 4y ago> Men don’t really get the ability to (truly) grasp abstract ideas until the late twenties. Women get that ability earlier ??? What does that even mean in practical terms?
- secstate 4y agoIt means that male-gendered people tend towards impulse and emotion rather than attempting to understand a situation and listen well into their 20s. Listening and empathy are really fucking hard, and it does not come as naturally to those heavy on testosterone, probably for obvious evolutionary reasons. None of this is written in stone. Biology and human behavior are way to nuanced for that, but as a group, those of the male persuasion develop those skills at a later age, again, probably for species survival reasons.
- eska 4y agoSource?
- withinboredom 4y agoNeurology/psychology text books. I don't personally have any hard sources at hand.
- eska 4y agoI’m sorry, but that’s not how you provide a source. If you make a strong claim you should either prove it yourself or point to someone who does. You did neither.
- withinboredom 4y agoThis is a pretty well known “fact” and isn’t a strong claim. Let me Google that for you: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41386-021-01137-9 https://www.nature.com/articles/s41386-021-01137-9 https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1460-9568.2006.05281.x https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1460-9568.2006...
- eska 4y agoFirst one has nothing to do with what you said, in addition to that the experiments are “in rats”. The second one is about cognitive decline in the elderly, presumably according to the authors because of work stress.
- withinboredom 4y agoI mean, if you don't bother to read the sources and understand them ... then there's not really much we can discuss. For the first source, literally in the second sentence: > Although neurons of the PFC are generated before birth, the differentiation of its neurons and development of synaptic connections in humans extend to the 3rd decade of life. Yes, that's how 'well known' this fact is, that it literally doesn't need a citation or even a defense ... fwiw, the first source in a broad overview of all the literature in the _difference_ between rats/humans/primates on the differences between the development of PFC (which controls 'abstract' thought). The second compares sexes across the entire lifetime, not just in elderly. This is all so obviously well-known that you're unlikely to find a study about it, you live this well into your 40's and literally see the effects of it all around you.