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My son is 9 and attends a standard British primary school. Today, he was explaining that two of his friends are arguing a lot because they can’t agree on rules
by blowski 4y ago
My son is 9 and attends a standard British primary school.
Today, he was explaining that two of his friends are arguing a lot because they can’t agree on rules to a game. He’s trying to stay friends with both of them, and has figured out that getting involved in the argument makes this harder.
These are the essential lessons home-schooled kids typically miss.
- itronitron 4y agoAre his friends learning the lesson as well? Because they are also in school.
- nraf 4y agoI'm glad your child is learning valuable social lessons. If anything, I learned how to appease people to fit in and make them like me at school. It wasn't until the last 2-3 years (I'm in my thirties now) after on a startup for the past 7 years that I started to better understand, explore and comprehend my personal psychology. It was until these last couple years that I learned that it’s not job to fix problems between people and that often it just makes things worse.
- withinboredom 4y agoSounds like you are human. Hello human. Men don’t really get the ability to (truly) grasp abstract ideas until the late twenties. Women get that ability earlier. In our thirties (all humans) learn to apply that abstract thinking to ourselves. In our forties, our heart finally stops growing and we become a full adult. Never discount your past, no matter how terrible and/or great it was. It’s part of who you are, part of what makes you, you. Embrace it, learn from it, and look forward. Yes, that is easier said than done.
- ZephyrBlu 4y ago> Men don’t really get the ability to (truly) grasp abstract ideas until the late twenties. Women get that ability earlier ??? What does that even mean in practical terms?
- secstate 4y agoIt means that male-gendered people tend towards impulse and emotion rather than attempting to understand a situation and listen well into their 20s. Listening and empathy are really fucking hard, and it does not come as naturally to those heavy on testosterone, probably for obvious evolutionary reasons. None of this is written in stone. Biology and human behavior are way to nuanced for that, but as a group, those of the male persuasion develop those skills at a later age, again, probably for species survival reasons.
- eska 4y agoSource?
- withinboredom 4y agoNeurology/psychology text books. I don't personally have any hard sources at hand.
- eska 4y agoI’m sorry, but that’s not how you provide a source. If you make a strong claim you should either prove it yourself or point to someone who does. You did neither.
- withinboredom 4y agoThis is a pretty well known “fact” and isn’t a strong claim. Let me Google that for you: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41386-021-01137-9 https://www.nature.com/articles/s41386-021-01137-9 https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1460-9568.2006.05281.x https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1460-9568.2006...
- eska 4y agoFirst one has nothing to do with what you said, in addition to that the experiments are “in rats”. The second one is about cognitive decline in the elderly, presumably according to the authors because of work stress.
- crtasm 4y agoYou think homeschooled kids typically don't have friends who argue? Interested how you've come to that conclusion.
- ZephyrBlu 4y agoYou are naturally exposed to less social situations like this if you don't go to school. The game goes for people who do not go to university. Very possible to learn how to navigate this kind of stuff without being in those environments, but you get a lot less exposure.