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Isn't that a contradiction? If humans never adversely selected against jerkness, how did we evolve kind people? > The myth that people are really considering n

Isn't that a contradiction? If humans never adversely selected against jerkness, how did we evolve kind people? > The myth that people are really considering non-physical factors into their mating choices Did you mean that people primarily select for physical attractiveness? This reads like you think people never consider non-physical factors, which I think is trivially disprovable. Look, I'm not saying that hot people don't fuck more often. But I am saying that the ugly nerd with a heart of gold is ... also a toxic narrative, and is based on the nerd's belief they have a heart of gold. I frequently read the 2x chromosome subreddit for what interactions with self-professed "nice guys" are like, and I wouldn't for a minute think these dudes are even halfway decent people.

t-3 4y ago
> Isn't that a contradiction? If humans never adversely selected against jerkness, how did we evolve kind people? In my experience, most people aren't all that kind to people they're not related to or well-acquainted with. Those that are tend to be taken advantage of and looked down on. > Did you mean that people primarily select for physical attractiveness? This reads like you think people never consider non-physical factors, which I think is trivially disprovable. People do sometimes consider non-physical factors, but only after they filter based on physical attractiveness, and usually that's only for long-term mate selection rather than casual sex or affairs. Like, I'm a complete POS with a horrible attitude and personality, no money or job, and an extensive criminal record, but I never have difficulty finding sex partners because I'm slightly above average in height and have a symmetrical face. My friend who works hard, is always honest, and will give you the shirt off his back - he can't get the time of day because 5'2".
- anotheruser13 4y ago
  In my experience (I know, anecdata), there is no IRL "Beauty and the Beast". Disclaimer: I seem to be a loser guy magnet.

t-3 4y ago

> Isn't that a contradiction? If humans never adversely selected against jerkness, how did we evolve kind people? In my experience, most people aren't all that kind to people they're not related to or well-acquainted with. Those that are tend to be taken advantage of and looked down on. > Did you mean that people primarily select for physical attractiveness? This reads like you think people never consider non-physical factors, which I think is trivially disprovable. People do sometimes consider non-physical factors, but only after they filter based on physical attractiveness, and usually that's only for long-term mate selection rather than casual sex or affairs. Like, I'm a complete POS with a horrible attitude and personality, no money or job, and an extensive criminal record, but I never have difficulty finding sex partners because I'm slightly above average in height and have a symmetrical face. My friend who works hard, is always honest, and will give you the shirt off his back - he can't get the time of day because 5'2".

anotheruser13 4y ago
In my experience (I know, anecdata), there is no IRL "Beauty and the Beast". Disclaimer: I seem to be a loser guy magnet.