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they totally can love, be loyal, loved and trusted by their inner circle(family), while being jerks in external environment.
by riku_iki 4y ago
they totally can love, be loyal, loved and trusted by their inner circle(family), while being jerks in external environment.
- juvvel 4y agoI have been with such a person and I can tell you the cognitive dissonance of that life weighed on them and made them generally unpleasant in many ways.
- funnym0nk3y 4y agoThey can, yes. The question is, however, what their natural behaviour is. Are they generally nice people and act like jerks just to get ahead? Or are they jerks and need to keep it together with family, friends, etc? Either way, in one part of their life they need to behave against their nature.
- riku_iki 4y agonatural behavior for example can be to love and help close people but realize that world around is competitive and everyone tries to bite everyone. I also think "jerk" assessment comes from people who do not accept such world, do not want to compete and prefer to be in the comfort zone, and blame surrounding instead by calling names.