Thanks for sharing. It's not abstruse at all, I guess I just didn't consider checking facts and perspective as "talking about a problem." There have certainly b

Thanks for sharing. It's not abstruse at all, I guess I just didn't consider checking facts and perspective as "talking about a problem." There have certainly been times in my life when I've asked someone I trust and admire if I was missing something, had done something wrong or to help me come up with a plan of action. Part of what shapes my experiences is that there are people in my life who have come to me to "talk about something" and when I offer them practical advise or an alternative perspective they either don't follow it or, worse, they get dismissive. As if solving the problem was not what they wanted, they just wanted to talk for the sake of talking. Talking for the sake of talking is something that I have little patience for, as I can't relate to the "need", nor do I like listening to people talk in general (I might even go as far as to classify it as a form of misophonia since speaking voices actually bother me). For that reason, I don't really like talking much in general. The "return on investment" in terms of effort spent vs reward gained has just never worked out all that favourably. But if we're talking about seeking out alternative perspectives, checking assumptions and beliefs and crafting action items then yes I've done that lots and would encourage everyone to seek that from time to time :)