The core of an argument is almost always an emotional response (usually fear or anger or jealousy or insecurity or loneliness, especially when you're tired or f

The core of an argument is almost always an emotional response (usually fear or anger or jealousy or insecurity or loneliness, especially when you're tired or frustrated), and so arguing the facts won't help (because that's not actually what's wrong). An argument is a symptom of deeper problems. Communication is about empathy: gaining an understanding of what's going on with the other person. This is something that must be practiced by both parties in order for a relationship to work. When someone is arguing, they're really saying "you're not hearing me, and not seeing what's hurting me". Their issues could be valid or could be invalid or could be completely selfish but that's hardly the point. What they're looking for is recognition that you see them and value them. Couples therapists help coach couples to see this deeper manner of connecting and communicating with each other, and help you practice (it really is a skill that you must learn and practice). It's also good to have a regular regimen of relationship maintenance: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLXX8wzvT7c https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLXX8wzvT7c