My elderly mother is determined to end her days in the city she spent most of her life in. Fair enough, but that's at least five hours drive away from where I'm

My elderly mother is determined to end her days in the city she spent most of her life in. Fair enough, but that's at least five hours drive away from where I'm living with my family and job. She has had a couple of minor strokes already and has dizzy spells that make continuing to walk up the stairs increasingly perilous, and she routinely forgets to take her medicines. So she needs routine hands-on care. I could provide a poor version of this by incessantly shuttling across the country (destroying my own family - her grandchildren - in the process), I could try to browbeat her into moving cities & become public enemy #1, or I can keep with the current project of moving her into the nicest & most supportive residential care I can find.