You can't. If you can, it means you don't give a carp at all what people think about you (as in NOT AT ALL), which means you're a psychopath. It's good to take

You can't. If you can, it means you don't give a carp at all what people think about you (as in NOT AT ALL), which means you're a psychopath. It's good to take some things personally. At least, I don't really see how one can improve him/herself if he/she doesn't take anything personally. And to be completely honest, I tend to be of the opinion that how much one takes personally is pretty hard-wired and can't be changed easily. <Put nature-vs-nurture debate here> I don't think you can 'decide' not to take something personally. (Perhaps you can see it wasn't personal in retrospect, and make the decision not to take something like that as a personal thing, after 'deciding' this many times, in the future.)