Why? Why isn't it okay the person who is taking on the risk and effort and cost of running the instance is setting the tone? At least on Mastodon you can move

Why? Why isn't it okay the person who is taking on the risk and effort and cost of running the instance is setting the tone? At least on Mastodon you can move to a competing server and maintain your connection with the fediverse. If I dislike how Twitter or Facebook is being run, my choices are to suck it up or to leave the entire network. If I dislike how a Mastodon instance is run, I can move to another instance and keep my relationships from my old account. I mean if this is a dealbreaker for you why are you on HN? HN has opinionated moderation. That's part of the deal of being here.