If you run your own instance of an activityPub server - e.g. mastodon, gotosocial, pixelfed, etc. - for, let's say, yourself or your family, then you will have

If you run your own instance of an activityPub server - e.g. mastodon, gotosocial, pixelfed, etc. - for, let's say, yourself or your family, then you will have vastly more capabilities to moderate content (way easier and more reliable than relying on others to do so). If your next question is: why do i have to moderate the content myself? ...Then, your expectations are not aligned with (and/or you misunderstand) the greater fediverse's design. I think the kids would say: "You're holding/using it wrong." ;-)