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Yes I have left the big city in pursuit of a simpler life and it's amazing. But, I think we're talking about two extremes here. I have lived in Los Angeles, Min

Yes I have left the big city in pursuit of a simpler life and it's amazing. But, I think we're talking about two extremes here. I have lived in Los Angeles, Minneapolis, and tiny rural Minnesota communities. By far, the mid-sized city is the best of both worlds. When I lived in LA, I absolutely felt like I was living in a dystopian parody of a progressive city. When I lived in small towns, I absolutely was annoyed that everyone knew my relatives and thought we were friends or something because of that. Zero anonymity. But Minneapolis has historically been good, though it's changed a lot since George Floyd. Now we live in a smallish suburb and get all the amenities without the claustrophobic small town bullshit. OP, just try moving to a distant suburb, and embrace the wisdom of middle age.

BobbyJo 4y ago
+1 A smallish city will provide 90+% of what you'd get out of a big city without the dystopian backdrop. I grew up in a small town, moved to a big city, then moved to a smaller city during COVID, with the intent of it being temporary until things go back to normal, and now I don't want to go back. Just as much to do, with less traffic, lower cost, and it feels a lot safer to walk around.
pandemicsoul 4y ago
Yeah, I just moved from SF Bay to Pittsburgh and I have to agree with this. Although everyone here complains about the weather, I WANTED weather again (SEASONS!), and I wanted affordability and a relatively left-leaning city. I bought a pretty damn big house (comparative to what I had in the Bay Area). I'm taking more vacations. The people are nicer than SF Bay Area, you can go places (restaurants on a weekend, for example!) without having to wait in long lines or park a million miles away. You can get tickets to concerts without having to be the FIRST person on Ticketmaster the moment they become available. You can get to nature a lot faster (I went skiing a couple months ago and it was bonkers how there were no lines or waiting for anything). Everything just feels easier, like you get to enjoy everything 20% more than you can in a metropolis where everything feels like a hassle and you've got people crawling on you like roaches.

BobbyJo 4y ago

+1 A smallish city will provide 90+% of what you'd get out of a big city without the dystopian backdrop. I grew up in a small town, moved to a big city, then moved to a smaller city during COVID, with the intent of it being temporary until things go back to normal, and now I don't want to go back. Just as much to do, with less traffic, lower cost, and it feels a lot safer to walk around.

pandemicsoul 4y ago

Yeah, I just moved from SF Bay to Pittsburgh and I have to agree with this. Although everyone here complains about the weather, I WANTED weather again (SEASONS!), and I wanted affordability and a relatively left-leaning city. I bought a pretty damn big house (comparative to what I had in the Bay Area). I'm taking more vacations. The people are nicer than SF Bay Area, you can go places (restaurants on a weekend, for example!) without having to wait in long lines or park a million miles away. You can get tickets to concerts without having to be the FIRST person on Ticketmaster the moment they become available. You can get to nature a lot faster (I went skiing a couple months ago and it was bonkers how there were no lines or waiting for anything). Everything just feels easier, like you get to enjoy everything 20% more than you can in a metropolis where everything feels like a hassle and you've got people crawling on you like roaches.