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// It's actually pretty simple: be single for a while, and see how it feels. If it sucks, then try not to be single Perhaps you are not a married dude... I fou
by xyzelement 4y ago
// It's actually pretty simple: be single for a while, and see how it feels. If it sucks, then try not to be single
Perhaps you are not a married dude... I found a huge difference between "not being single" and being married. The life long commitment backing the relationship adds a lot.
I wouldn't have expected that a priori. And I think maybe this isn't well understood.
- lapcat 4y ago> The life long commitment backing the relationship adds a lot. Marriage isn't exactly a lifelong commitment anymore. Til divorce do we part. In any case, as I discussed in my previous comment, the lifelong commitment can't be one-sided. You don't just make a lifelong commitment to a random person on the street. You have to meet the right person first. Any advice or preaching is irrelevant unless you happen to meet a potential spouse, in which case you may not even need advice, and things will just take their natural course.
- xyzelement 4y agoI agree on the need to meet the right person. To meet the right person, you need to BE the right person. Like, imagine you meet someone who wants to get married and have kids and you are unsure. They probably won't stick around to see if and when you are gonna figure it out for yourself. Certainly, can work that way. Not optimal path.