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Having more than two people in the house who can act as parents is a game changer. Definitely one place where modern society has slipped up, though there's some

Having more than two people in the house who can act as parents is a game changer. Definitely one place where modern society has slipped up, though there's some change in that with families like mine.

Enginerrrd 4y ago
Do you care to elaborate? I've been thinking about this a LOT over the years. I feel like children were meant to be able to roam around and find different adults to glom onto until they're too annoyed and then move on to the next, all the while learning different specialized skills and niches to find one they fit in with. I can't help but feel that more-than-2-adult households would have a huge advantage in this era.
- lr4444lr 4y ago
  The problem is compounded by (in the USA) middle class requiring 2 working parents increasingly in most places. We aren't built as humans to function like this.
- otachack 4y ago
  I agree with you so much. That's an aspect that stood out in The Expanse series. Holden was from Earth and was brought up with many "fathers and mothers" I'm assuming through a time where it was difficult to have children Looking at today it feels we'd alleviate a ton of parental pressure if we had households like that and not depend on the traditional couple.
  - htag 4y ago
    I understand that in the novel series that sort of setup was encouraged by institutions (there is a vague mention of taxes), and in The United States this is setup is disincentivized by institutions. However if greater than two parent households was a genuinely preferable way to live I would expect more people to choose that lifestyle now.
- delinom 4y ago
  "It takes a village to raise a child" [0] sums it up nicely. Teenagers and adults also need a "third place" [1]. It's all about community. Current individualistic trends and cost of living undermine this. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_takes_a_village https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_takes_a_village [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place
- flangola7 4y ago
  There's 5 of of us. Me, wife, wife's girlfriend, my girlfriend, and my girlfriend's boyfriend. To my kids me and my wife are mom and dad and responsible for primary parenting duties, but we're all one big family and help each other out. Not unlike cultures where it's normal to have many extended family members under one roof. People lose their minds when I tell them I have three kids and that my wife and I have rarely ever had less than six hours of sleep.
CalRobert 4y ago
I utterly despise nuclear families now. Not the families of course (I'm in one!) but the arrangement. It's horrible. For all involved.

Enginerrrd 4y ago

Do you care to elaborate? I've been thinking about this a LOT over the years. I feel like children were meant to be able to roam around and find different adults to glom onto until they're too annoyed and then move on to the next, all the while learning different specialized skills and niches to find one they fit in with. I can't help but feel that more-than-2-adult households would have a huge advantage in this era.

lr4444lr 4y ago
The problem is compounded by (in the USA) middle class requiring 2 working parents increasingly in most places. We aren't built as humans to function like this.
otachack 4y ago
I agree with you so much. That's an aspect that stood out in The Expanse series. Holden was from Earth and was brought up with many "fathers and mothers" I'm assuming through a time where it was difficult to have children Looking at today it feels we'd alleviate a ton of parental pressure if we had households like that and not depend on the traditional couple.
- htag 4y ago
  I understand that in the novel series that sort of setup was encouraged by institutions (there is a vague mention of taxes), and in The United States this is setup is disincentivized by institutions. However if greater than two parent households was a genuinely preferable way to live I would expect more people to choose that lifestyle now.
delinom 4y ago
"It takes a village to raise a child" [0] sums it up nicely. Teenagers and adults also need a "third place" [1]. It's all about community. Current individualistic trends and cost of living undermine this. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_takes_a_village https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/It_takes_a_village [1] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Third_place
flangola7 4y ago
There's 5 of of us. Me, wife, wife's girlfriend, my girlfriend, and my girlfriend's boyfriend. To my kids me and my wife are mom and dad and responsible for primary parenting duties, but we're all one big family and help each other out. Not unlike cultures where it's normal to have many extended family members under one roof. People lose their minds when I tell them I have three kids and that my wife and I have rarely ever had less than six hours of sleep.

CalRobert 4y ago

I utterly despise nuclear families now. Not the families of course (I'm in one!) but the arrangement. It's horrible. For all involved.