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The “magic” seems little more than not having to compromise, allowing you to be selfish without the guilt of hurting others. With friends, the magic comes when

The “magic” seems little more than not having to compromise, allowing you to be selfish without the guilt of hurting others. With friends, the magic comes when the holiday has finished and you start saying “remember that thing on that holiday!”. The worst form of loneliness is only having memories nobody else shares.

BrandoElFollito 4y ago
> The worst form of loneliness is only having memories nobody else shares It depends on people. I have plenty of memories I share alone and I am happy to do so. I am not nostalgic so the "it was better then" does not work for me. I am much, much more interested to sharing the present with people, i.e. meeting them for the sake of meeting and not doing extraordinary things together.
satvikpendem 4y ago
I've made lots of friends as I traveled, so much that when I meet up with them in a different corner of the world, we do indeed reminisce about our previous adventures.
postsantum 4y ago
For me the worst form of loneliness is to be with people that I don't want to be with. That's is like mental suffocation - a sizeable chunk of your mind is occupied due to simple presence of people you are travelling with
rainsford 4y ago
> The “magic” seems little more than not having to compromise, allowing you to be selfish without the guilt of hurting others. You say that like it's a bad thing. Don't get me wrong, I completely agree on the value of shared memories from traveling with friends. But as you said, by definition the memories will be of experiences that were shaped by compromise. When traveling alone, the experience is yours alone and defined by the memories you want to make. Is the value of shared memories worth the tradeoff of potentially missing out on some memories you were looking to have? I think it depends a lot on the person, the trip, and the group, but it seems silly to suggest there's an obvious right answer that's universally applicable. The point of articles like this isn't that solo travel is the only valid way to do things either. But it offers an alternative for consideration in a world where group travel is the default. And the worst travel experience is one you don't have at all because you didn't have anyone to go with.
thaw13579 4y ago
This resonances with me as well. Telling people about travel abroad is sort of like telling people about your dreams, rarely ever welcome.

BrandoElFollito 4y ago

> The worst form of loneliness is only having memories nobody else shares It depends on people. I have plenty of memories I share alone and I am happy to do so. I am not nostalgic so the "it was better then" does not work for me. I am much, much more interested to sharing the present with people, i.e. meeting them for the sake of meeting and not doing extraordinary things together.

satvikpendem 4y ago

I've made lots of friends as I traveled, so much that when I meet up with them in a different corner of the world, we do indeed reminisce about our previous adventures.

postsantum 4y ago

For me the worst form of loneliness is to be with people that I don't want to be with. That's is like mental suffocation - a sizeable chunk of your mind is occupied due to simple presence of people you are travelling with

rainsford 4y ago

> The “magic” seems little more than not having to compromise, allowing you to be selfish without the guilt of hurting others. You say that like it's a bad thing. Don't get me wrong, I completely agree on the value of shared memories from traveling with friends. But as you said, by definition the memories will be of experiences that were shaped by compromise. When traveling alone, the experience is yours alone and defined by the memories you want to make. Is the value of shared memories worth the tradeoff of potentially missing out on some memories you were looking to have? I think it depends a lot on the person, the trip, and the group, but it seems silly to suggest there's an obvious right answer that's universally applicable. The point of articles like this isn't that solo travel is the only valid way to do things either. But it offers an alternative for consideration in a world where group travel is the default. And the worst travel experience is one you don't have at all because you didn't have anyone to go with.

thaw13579 4y ago

This resonances with me as well. Telling people about travel abroad is sort of like telling people about your dreams, rarely ever welcome.