I would not be surprised if there is an element of responsibility that is missing from the story. If the problems you cause will cause yourself future pain, bu

I would not be surprised if there is an element of responsibility that is missing from the story. If the problems you cause will cause yourself future pain, but not others, then you should get privilege proportional to your responsibility. If the problems that are caused will be experienced by someone else, and that person is already under a lot of pressure, every new small problem has a chance of being the piece of straw that breaks the camels back. If the person writing comments is oncall, but OP is not, then OP is wrong and OP needs to be put on the oncall rotation to get some empathy. "You dealing with this problem is a price I'm willing to pay" probably isn't going to have good outcomes for anyone. "I'm going to write this system that other people will be responsible for maintaining" isn't going to have good outcomes for the people who inherit it. If OPs money is where his mouth is, if it's OPs skin in the game and not the person writing comments, then what the commenter says doesn't really matter that much. If OP is writing checks that are debited to the commentors account, well, OP is in the wrong. Regardless, OP does not trust his co-worker and thinks his coworker acts in bad faith, and that is a problem the manager needs to address. Me vs them is not a productive mindset and is the one OP clearly has. Us vs the problem is a productive mindset.