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As a man, talk therapy has never worked for me. CBT helps me cope with negative emotions, but doesn't fix their cause (life under "capitalism" in the US). What'
by TheMoonToMyLeft 4y ago
As a man, talk therapy has never worked for me. CBT helps me cope with negative emotions, but doesn't fix their cause (life under "capitalism" in the US). What's worked for me has been physical activity that doesn't involve a computer:
* bashing out heavy metal on a cello (think Apocalyptica but without talent)
* lifting weights
* pounding a heavy punching bag
As a result, I view advice to get therapy as I do the suggestion that I "touch grass"; they're the sort of thing people say because they don't have the guts to tell me to go pound sand.
- GavinMcG 4y agoAs a man, talk therapy has worked wonders for me. No individual tool will fix the underlying cause, of course, and I also benefit greatly from weightlifting and other exercise. If therapy is less immediately effective for men, that may signal a greater need for it, not a lesser one. Learning to understand and experience one's emotions is both a skill therapy can develop and one that is needed for therapy (or journaling, etc.) to be maximally effective.
- SketchySeaBeast 4y agoAnd as a complete counter example, I find it useful but my wife does not. It doesn't seem to be a gender thing, but rather a personality thing, which may or may not line up along gender lines.
- glonq 4y agoHave you considered "life under socialism in <civilized country>" ?
- TheMoonToMyLeft 4y agoHaven't been able to find one that will give entry/work visas to self-taught techies without university degrees.