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The annoying thing is When one of the parents is very allergic to peanuts, so you have to give it to the child elsewhere, and no friends or relatives want that

by kqr 4y ago

The annoying thing is When one of the parents is very allergic to peanuts, so you have to give it to the child elsewhere, and no friends or relatives want that responsibility. You get very little support from elsewhere. (My wife is allergic to sesame. We have tried to get people to have hummus parties with our children but to this day they have not eaten any sesame as far as we are aware.)

AlanSE 4y ago
I'm in the same boat, and it's true, even doctors don't get it. Gone through several pediatricians and got a blank stare back, mouth-agape. Children are getting older, and thankfully, are no afflicted with the same allergy as their mother. But as time wears on, it is truly emotionally draining. The nuts held in a hermetically sealed container are compared to a caged viper - as they can easily cause life-threatening anaphylaxis for exactly 1 person in the household. We have to follow a super-clean process outside-and-inside to give an introduction, but you know what, kids don't always want to do what they're told. It sucks, and it's a problem more and more people will have in the future.
jjulius 4y ago
Genuinely curious, not trying to criticize, am parent of littles myself. You mentioned your wife is allergic but you're not, and talked about the difficulty you've had finding friends/family to expose them to it. I don't see mention of you being the one to expose them to it in a setting a safe distance away from your wife, and I guess I'm just curious! Hummus as a snack when you're at a park, or something? Like I said, genuinely not trying to criticize, just another parent who's curious. I've been lucky to not have any allergy issues with my kiddos, so I guess I'm ignorant and just wondering what it's like and how complicated it could be.
- kqr 4y ago
  Admittedly this may be a smaller problem with the children, but our rule when it comes to myself is that I also avoid sesame unless I'm not going to see my wife for a day or two. Our concern is that some of it would stick to teeth despite careful brushing, and then get transferred by intimacy. (She is extremely allergic.) And truth is our children and myself have not been away from my wife for more than a few hours at a time since they were born! Again, maybe this rule is not as important with the children who are not as vigorous kissers, but especially during the latest healthcare overloads we have been extra careful with avoidance. And as another commenter pointed out, the children don't understand that they are eating stuff that kills mom, so they may be unreliable in other ways.
  - jjulius 4y ago
    Aha, I gotcha. I guess that's my ignorance at play, not knowing to what degree an allergen can stick around, for how long, and how complicated that can all be! Thanks for the insight. :)

by kqr 4y ago

AlanSE 4y ago

I'm in the same boat, and it's true, even doctors don't get it. Gone through several pediatricians and got a blank stare back, mouth-agape. Children are getting older, and thankfully, are no afflicted with the same allergy as their mother. But as time wears on, it is truly emotionally draining. The nuts held in a hermetically sealed container are compared to a caged viper - as they can easily cause life-threatening anaphylaxis for exactly 1 person in the household. We have to follow a super-clean process outside-and-inside to give an introduction, but you know what, kids don't always want to do what they're told. It sucks, and it's a problem more and more people will have in the future.

jjulius 4y ago

Genuinely curious, not trying to criticize, am parent of littles myself. You mentioned your wife is allergic but you're not, and talked about the difficulty you've had finding friends/family to expose them to it. I don't see mention of you being the one to expose them to it in a setting a safe distance away from your wife, and I guess I'm just curious! Hummus as a snack when you're at a park, or something? Like I said, genuinely not trying to criticize, just another parent who's curious. I've been lucky to not have any allergy issues with my kiddos, so I guess I'm ignorant and just wondering what it's like and how complicated it could be.

kqr 4y ago
Admittedly this may be a smaller problem with the children, but our rule when it comes to myself is that I also avoid sesame unless I'm not going to see my wife for a day or two. Our concern is that some of it would stick to teeth despite careful brushing, and then get transferred by intimacy. (She is extremely allergic.) And truth is our children and myself have not been away from my wife for more than a few hours at a time since they were born! Again, maybe this rule is not as important with the children who are not as vigorous kissers, but especially during the latest healthcare overloads we have been extra careful with avoidance. And as another commenter pointed out, the children don't understand that they are eating stuff that kills mom, so they may be unreliable in other ways.
- jjulius 4y ago
  Aha, I gotcha. I guess that's my ignorance at play, not knowing to what degree an allergen can stick around, for how long, and how complicated that can all be! Thanks for the insight. :)