In the most kind way possible, this is a truly dark Ayn Rand view on society that fails to understand relationships are far more complex than just goods and ser

In the most kind way possible, this is a truly dark Ayn Rand view on society that fails to understand relationships are far more complex than just goods and services but Empathy. Someone is asking for help on their terms. That means putting yourself in their shoes, understanding, and empathizing. Here is the secret: You are a normal person, every "professional" is. Just because you are a engineer doesn't make you some other being or such. I say that as an engineer. Go work a day with a drywaller hanging a complex high ceiling with dormers. They are using the exact same math you are. Chances are they are doing it in their head faster than you, they have created a system for everything they do in the exact way you write a function. They are working within a regulated environment and their work is reviewed by others, new tools come along, etc. Chances are, you may ask that drywaller how to fix the damage you got at home next to a door frame. Surprize: Turns out your drywaller only does drywall, not finishing, paint, or trim. But they know where they sit in the world. They will tell you a solution, in whole, focused on how a normal person should fix it. They won't tell you to go get their tools, to replace the whole panel or such. They will meet you where you are. That is empathy. It is understanding that your skills and solutions don't apply to others and that doesn't make them some 'better' being but in fact limited to their ways of doing. If an engineer can't lift themselves out of engineering to help others..they are more limited as a human, not less.