i feel like i've dealt with this a lot over the years. not sure i ever handled it successfully, but to the extent i ever did, it would have been later in my wo

i feel like i've dealt with this a lot over the years. not sure i ever handled it successfully, but to the extent i ever did, it would have been later in my work life when i'd realized that not everything had to happen today, immediately, or yesterday, and that consistency and longevity at work (like, working for days/weeks/months/years, not just 15 minutes/hours of burst output) is or can be really important, and staying level-headed over ankle-biting and ankle-biters is really important, and things would eventually either go/work out, or they would not -- but my huffing and puffing at someone's ankle-biting was only ever going to look as amateur-hour as the ankle-biter and the team -- assuming the manager lets the behavior drag on forever -- which they usually do (when they're not me). so, i'd keep on keepin' on. in the panicked, hyperbolic 'But what should we _do_?!' meetings that will eventually happen, i'd let everyone else talk, keep your cool, stick to your feelings, and if it's not out of line, talk about the Jobs/Bezos strategy of picking a direction, going with it full force, and if it ends up sucking, you'll change directions, done. ps i really dislike the "You will never get any usable advice on HN because HN readers are not _personally_ showering with you" or whatever they're on about -- it's just a weird thing to say on a social bulletin board-type thing.