Echoing what bckr said, try and see if there's something you can provide to the person you admire. From the book: Superhuman Social_Skills: A Guide to Being Li

Echoing what bckr said, try and see if there's something you can provide to the person you admire. From the book: Superhuman Social_Skills: A Guide to Being Likeable, Winning Friends 'The value you're trying to convey is attributes about yourself that make you an interesting and pleasant person. You want to build intrigue without conveying arrogance, and demonstrate that you are socially adept, non-needy, and will be an asset to the person or group with whom you're interacting.'