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I mean, children also generally don't want someone to take care of them, and yet they don't have much say in the matter.
by mindslight 4y ago
I mean, children also generally don't want someone to take care of them, and yet they don't have much say in the matter.
- toomuchtodo 4y agoIt’s easier to assume agency over your children than an adult. Sometimes, you even have to go to court (depending on circumstances). With elderly loved ones, as with everything in life, a negotiation takes place.
- wpietri 4y agoYeah, my grandfather was absolutely opposed to giving up any agency. Especially to his daughters, so I was the front man. When we had to take away his car keys, he came after me with his cane. Hilarious in retrospect, as it was almost a cartoon. But at the time, it was quite dramatic.
- mindslight 4y agoI agree, but that negotiation isn't necessarily in explicit terms. In my experience elderly people will spend all day insisting that they will do something themselves (protecting their own ego), yet most of the time if you go ahead and just do it for them they just accept it and move on.