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I don't even live in the US let alone SV and I don't work at FAANG. Comparing companies without taking compensation into account is just silly. > If the folks

I don't even live in the US let alone SV and I don't work at FAANG. Comparing companies without taking compensation into account is just silly. > If the folks I work with are any indication, the extra money is what you'll tell yourself you'll spend one day while you blow the best years of your life grinding away at work I'm curious how old you are and how many YOE you had before you joined FAANG as a senior. What did you spend "the best years of your life" doing instead of "grinding away at work"?

01100011 4y ago
Joined a FAANG around 42 w/ 25 years of experience. Spent most of my time at smaller tech companies in a smaller market where I owned a house and enjoyed life outside of work. I was married and ended up getting divorced and stuck w/ hellacious alimony(no kids, just lazy wife) so I had to work in the valley gold mines to make up for it. I want to add here that I'm not totally bagging on FAANG work. I'm glad I did it(and still am). I have an immensely impactful role that pays well even if I don't enjoy the team I'm on. But I work with people who have spent most of their careers in the valley and it shows. They're middle aged and frustrated that, despite their single, high paying FAANG job they can't buy a house or find a spouse("Man Jose" and all that). They're folks without hobbies who only seem to find worth in their work accomplishments. Maybe I'm just old and these are the kinds of people society cranks out now. I don't know.
- slaw 4y ago
  What crappy state or country you live that forces you to support lazy ex-wife?
  - 01100011 4y ago
    California. Long-term marriage. Wife resisted getting a real job for years while promising her various artistic endeavors would turn into a career. Now she has no skills(on paper anyway) and gets to sit around watching netflix all day in oregon while I pay for it.
    - irrational 4y ago
      For how long? Until she dies?
- rjh29 4y ago
  I mean, you got married and divorced and now you're forced to work hard to pay alimony, yet you are judging people who are single? Maybe they just don't want to get married? You're not exactly making it seem appealing.
  - 01100011 4y ago
    I'd rather have loved and lost than have missed out and died single. Marriage is great, which is why I remarried. Just understand what you're getting into and make some money before you get married. Then you have something that can't easily be taken away in a divorce. My mistake was marrying at 20 and not realizing the ex was a slouch.
- throwaway2037 4y ago
  "42 w/ 25 years of experience". Umm... Tell us about your full time professional work at 17 years old. We are curious to learn more. It's probably more like 20-21 years.
  - 01100011 4y ago
    Haha sorry, math fail. I don't social media much and let myself get sucked into too many convos at once. 42 with 20 years of experience. Started in '97.

01100011 4y ago

Joined a FAANG around 42 w/ 25 years of experience. Spent most of my time at smaller tech companies in a smaller market where I owned a house and enjoyed life outside of work. I was married and ended up getting divorced and stuck w/ hellacious alimony(no kids, just lazy wife) so I had to work in the valley gold mines to make up for it. I want to add here that I'm not totally bagging on FAANG work. I'm glad I did it(and still am). I have an immensely impactful role that pays well even if I don't enjoy the team I'm on. But I work with people who have spent most of their careers in the valley and it shows. They're middle aged and frustrated that, despite their single, high paying FAANG job they can't buy a house or find a spouse("Man Jose" and all that). They're folks without hobbies who only seem to find worth in their work accomplishments. Maybe I'm just old and these are the kinds of people society cranks out now. I don't know.

slaw 4y ago
What crappy state or country you live that forces you to support lazy ex-wife?
- 01100011 4y ago
  California. Long-term marriage. Wife resisted getting a real job for years while promising her various artistic endeavors would turn into a career. Now she has no skills(on paper anyway) and gets to sit around watching netflix all day in oregon while I pay for it.
  - irrational 4y ago
    For how long? Until she dies?
rjh29 4y ago
I mean, you got married and divorced and now you're forced to work hard to pay alimony, yet you are judging people who are single? Maybe they just don't want to get married? You're not exactly making it seem appealing.
- 01100011 4y ago
  I'd rather have loved and lost than have missed out and died single. Marriage is great, which is why I remarried. Just understand what you're getting into and make some money before you get married. Then you have something that can't easily be taken away in a divorce. My mistake was marrying at 20 and not realizing the ex was a slouch.
throwaway2037 4y ago
"42 w/ 25 years of experience". Umm... Tell us about your full time professional work at 17 years old. We are curious to learn more. It's probably more like 20-21 years.
- 01100011 4y ago
  Haha sorry, math fail. I don't social media much and let myself get sucked into too many convos at once. 42 with 20 years of experience. Started in '97.