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It'll happen to yooouuu! Kidding, but is there a word for this kind of Sonder? When you realize that your grandparents used to be people? Or when you notice th

It'll happen to yooouuu! Kidding, but is there a word for this kind of Sonder? When you realize that your grandparents used to be people? Or when you notice that the "grown-ups" are now you, and you have no idea what you're doing? And that they probably didn't either? I get it when I realize "huh, this is the age my parents were when I was born," "this is the age they were when I went to college," etc. etc. We were always somewhat insulated from it because pictures of young-old-folks were all black and white, but kids born today will see the tiktoks that their parents made. I wonder if that will shorten the emotional distance.

dctoedt 4y ago
> It'll happen to yooouuu! As a teen I teased my dad for no longer being the rail-thin fighter pilot of his early photos. He laughed and said, you wait, kid — and sure enough .... EDIT: Back then I was pretty "buff" from manual labor. Fast forward to maybe 20 years ago: My then-teenaged son saw a video (my late dad's home movies, digitized) of me, shirtless, during that era. Artlessly, my son blurted: Wow, Dad, what happened?
- throwanem 4y ago
  When I was growing up in Mississippi, my mom always used to tell me youth was wasted on the young. I always laughed; she never did, and a few years ago I mentioned that I'd finally figured out why not. That made her laugh.
  - batch12 4y ago
    Yeah, there are truths that most of us don't understand until we have experienced them. I was told to enjoy being young, sucks getting old, you won't be able to eat like that forever... yeah yeah. We all know we die from an early age, but most of us don't fully comprehend what that means until we are older and our youth is gone.
    - bcrosby95 4y ago
      I suffered from the opposite problem: I never wanted to be old, it always looked like a bad deal to me. I still don't want to be - I shirk my responsibilities whenever I can. With 3 kids its not often I get to though.

dctoedt 4y ago

> It'll happen to yooouuu! As a teen I teased my dad for no longer being the rail-thin fighter pilot of his early photos. He laughed and said, you wait, kid — and sure enough .... EDIT: Back then I was pretty "buff" from manual labor. Fast forward to maybe 20 years ago: My then-teenaged son saw a video (my late dad's home movies, digitized) of me, shirtless, during that era. Artlessly, my son blurted: Wow, Dad, what happened?

throwanem 4y ago
When I was growing up in Mississippi, my mom always used to tell me youth was wasted on the young. I always laughed; she never did, and a few years ago I mentioned that I'd finally figured out why not. That made her laugh.
- batch12 4y ago
  Yeah, there are truths that most of us don't understand until we have experienced them. I was told to enjoy being young, sucks getting old, you won't be able to eat like that forever... yeah yeah. We all know we die from an early age, but most of us don't fully comprehend what that means until we are older and our youth is gone.
  - bcrosby95 4y ago
    I suffered from the opposite problem: I never wanted to be old, it always looked like a bad deal to me. I still don't want to be - I shirk my responsibilities whenever I can. With 3 kids its not often I get to though.