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> When the family’s channel started to rake in the views, Claire says both her parents left their jobs because the revenue from the YouTube channel was enough t

> When the family’s channel started to rake in the views, Claire says both her parents left their jobs because the revenue from the YouTube channel was enough to support the family and to land them a nicer house and new car. “That’s not fair that I have to support everyone,” she said. “I try not to be resentful but I kind of [am].” Maybe I was raised differently, but it sounds like her family got the deal of a lifetime. Supporting your parents financially is just part of life for a lot of people, some even get a lot of happiness out of it. I know folks here on H1B that live shoestring and send more than half of what they make back home to their family, and are happy to do so. I know it's easy to paint Claire as having been exploited here, but can one not look at the bigger picture and see that this is clearly a positive thing for their family? If I was 17 again and had the opportunity to post videos of myself talking instead of my parents working 50h weeks, I know I'd do it in a heartbeat.

teerak 4y ago
At 17 you are an adult and have a choice. By the time this kid could reason about this stuff she already had her privacy taken away forever.
bragr 4y ago
Well that's your choice in retrospect though, she wants out and is effectively being forced, which is not ok. Just a bit father down: >Once, she told her dad she didn’t want to do YouTube videos anymore and he told her they would have to move out of their house and her parents would have to go back to work, leaving no money for “nice things.”
dingusdew 4y ago
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sneak 4y ago
> Supporting your parents financially is just part of life for a lot of people, some even get a lot of happiness out of it. Yeah, lots of people find happiness in things done with consent. Those same people find unhappiness, resentment, and anger when those same things are done without consent. Consent matters! Children are not born owing their parents anything. This take is disgusting, frankly, because it ignores the core issue: that it was nonconsensual. It would be like commenting on a marital rape story "but many wives love having sex with their husband!" The article says that this child is considering cutting off all contact with her parents when she turns 18 and can move out. Does that sound like happiness to you? Monetize your kids at your own risk.
- rayiner 4y ago
  > Children are not born owing their parents anything. Yes they are. That is the function of children with respect to parents in the circle of life, just as it is the function of parents to care for children. Not all obligations are ones you voluntarily undertake. Of course there are boundaries to the scope of that obligation. But those are defined by society, not "consent." The problem in Claire's story is that the parents are perfectly capable of working but choose to burden her instead.
  - dlisboa 4y ago
    Going into parenthood with that mentality is a surefire way of making sure the children won't care at all about that "obligation". People take care of their families because of a bond that has nothing to do with blood. That bond is uniquely about mutual feelings and as a parent we have only a few years to make that bond last a lifetime. If it's formed on top of obligations and resentment it'll break the first chance it gets. Just take a look at one of the kids in the article: she probably had a great life materially, but the minute she turns 18 she's willing to never talk to her parents ever again.
    - rayiner 4y ago
      Only in societies, like certain parts of America, beset with pathological levels of individualism. In healthy societies, that obligation generally doesn’t lead to resentment because (1) it’s a mutual and reciprocal obligation; and (2) people understand that they have roles and obligations that arise by virtue of their very existence as a human being. To be clear, in this particular example the parents are breaching their side of the obligation by burdening their kid while they’re still healthy and able to work.
      - sneak 4y ago
        No. The reciprocal obligation that people have, having been taken care of as children, is that they take care of their own children in turn. Parents are adults who can and should care for themselves. You aren't born into debt. To expect both your parents, as well as your children, to be responsible to you at both ends of your life is selfish and entitled.
watwut 4y ago
The people supporting their parents financially should not be 7 years old tho. It is a lot of pressure for a kid. > I know it's easy to paint Claire as having been exploited here, but can one not look at the bigger picture and see that this is clearly a positive thing for their family? Something being good for parents and siblings does not necessary imply it is good for the kid. The distinction matters. Sometimes it is a balancing acts and other times it is simply an exploitation.

teerak 4y ago

At 17 you are an adult and have a choice. By the time this kid could reason about this stuff she already had her privacy taken away forever.

bragr 4y ago

Well that's your choice in retrospect though, she wants out and is effectively being forced, which is not ok. Just a bit father down: >Once, she told her dad she didn’t want to do YouTube videos anymore and he told her they would have to move out of their house and her parents would have to go back to work, leaving no money for “nice things.”

dingusdew 4y ago

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sneak 4y ago

> Supporting your parents financially is just part of life for a lot of people, some even get a lot of happiness out of it. Yeah, lots of people find happiness in things done with consent. Those same people find unhappiness, resentment, and anger when those same things are done without consent. Consent matters! Children are not born owing their parents anything. This take is disgusting, frankly, because it ignores the core issue: that it was nonconsensual. It would be like commenting on a marital rape story "but many wives love having sex with their husband!" The article says that this child is considering cutting off all contact with her parents when she turns 18 and can move out. Does that sound like happiness to you? Monetize your kids at your own risk.

rayiner 4y ago
> Children are not born owing their parents anything. Yes they are. That is the function of children with respect to parents in the circle of life, just as it is the function of parents to care for children. Not all obligations are ones you voluntarily undertake. Of course there are boundaries to the scope of that obligation. But those are defined by society, not "consent." The problem in Claire's story is that the parents are perfectly capable of working but choose to burden her instead.
- dlisboa 4y ago
  Going into parenthood with that mentality is a surefire way of making sure the children won't care at all about that "obligation". People take care of their families because of a bond that has nothing to do with blood. That bond is uniquely about mutual feelings and as a parent we have only a few years to make that bond last a lifetime. If it's formed on top of obligations and resentment it'll break the first chance it gets. Just take a look at one of the kids in the article: she probably had a great life materially, but the minute she turns 18 she's willing to never talk to her parents ever again.
  - rayiner 4y ago
    Only in societies, like certain parts of America, beset with pathological levels of individualism. In healthy societies, that obligation generally doesn’t lead to resentment because (1) it’s a mutual and reciprocal obligation; and (2) people understand that they have roles and obligations that arise by virtue of their very existence as a human being. To be clear, in this particular example the parents are breaching their side of the obligation by burdening their kid while they’re still healthy and able to work.
    - sneak 4y ago
      No. The reciprocal obligation that people have, having been taken care of as children, is that they take care of their own children in turn. Parents are adults who can and should care for themselves. You aren't born into debt. To expect both your parents, as well as your children, to be responsible to you at both ends of your life is selfish and entitled.

watwut 4y ago

The people supporting their parents financially should not be 7 years old tho. It is a lot of pressure for a kid. > I know it's easy to paint Claire as having been exploited here, but can one not look at the bigger picture and see that this is clearly a positive thing for their family? Something being good for parents and siblings does not necessary imply it is good for the kid. The distinction matters. Sometimes it is a balancing acts and other times it is simply an exploitation.