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Frame challenge: You already have decided not to care about online privacy. It seems you are not looking to be convinced but rather for selected opinions making

Frame challenge: You already have decided not to care about online privacy. It seems you are not looking to be convinced but rather for selected opinions making it easier for you to justify your decision to yourself. If I am right, I suggest just moving on with your life. That is your ultimate goal, and your search for the articles and videos you requested is getting as much in the way of that as your struggle for online privacy.

singedproxy 4y ago
> looking [...] for selected opinions making it easier for you to justify your decision to yourself. Exactly this! I noticed I have a habit of doing this for everything I "choose" in my life. If I choose to buy X, I go online looking for opinions to validate my decision; if I choose to take Y sport, I do the same; if I feel inclined to belive in Z theory or follow W philosophy, I do the same. I know what I want and believe, but I still find it hard to just trust myself and dive into it, rather I have to always justify it to myself by means of external opinions. This may not be the best place to ask, but do you have any idea on how to deal with this "lack of confidence in my own choices"?
- jarno3000 4y ago
  Might not be a popular suggestion but Marie Forleo probably has just the answers you are looking for.
  - singedproxy 4y ago
    Thank you for taking the time to drop this recommendation. I will definitely look into it :)
adaptationora 4y ago
This is the response I need to hear I think. You’re hitting the nail on the head. I guess my only hesitation is that I’ve tried having this sort of resolve before, and then something changed (no idea what - the weather, my workload, my mood, my kids sleep patterns, or something) and I slipped back into this pattern of migrating my email around to different services. So I guess I’m shopping for evidence or reasoning to help me both decide to not care, and to remember not to care when things change again.

singedproxy 4y ago

> looking [...] for selected opinions making it easier for you to justify your decision to yourself. Exactly this! I noticed I have a habit of doing this for everything I "choose" in my life. If I choose to buy X, I go online looking for opinions to validate my decision; if I choose to take Y sport, I do the same; if I feel inclined to belive in Z theory or follow W philosophy, I do the same. I know what I want and believe, but I still find it hard to just trust myself and dive into it, rather I have to always justify it to myself by means of external opinions. This may not be the best place to ask, but do you have any idea on how to deal with this "lack of confidence in my own choices"?

jarno3000 4y ago
Might not be a popular suggestion but Marie Forleo probably has just the answers you are looking for.
- singedproxy 4y ago
  Thank you for taking the time to drop this recommendation. I will definitely look into it :)

adaptationora 4y ago

This is the response I need to hear I think. You’re hitting the nail on the head. I guess my only hesitation is that I’ve tried having this sort of resolve before, and then something changed (no idea what - the weather, my workload, my mood, my kids sleep patterns, or something) and I slipped back into this pattern of migrating my email around to different services. So I guess I’m shopping for evidence or reasoning to help me both decide to not care, and to remember not to care when things change again.