"engineers are professionals with strong opinions who will always tell me when/if they need anything to help them get their work done. Right? If they aren't say

"engineers are professionals with strong opinions who will always tell me when/if they need anything to help them get their work done. Right? If they aren't saying anything, it's their own fault, right? They're adults, right?" There can a cultural block here based on popular conceptions of “leadership” vs “caregiving” which maps against “strong”/“soft” & “male”/“female” in clearly counterproductive ways. Edit: I am interested in counter arguments here from downvoters. I am a pretty typical typical Midwestern guy with traditionally ‘macho’ interests/hobbies, but I’ve seen the above pattern play out repeatedly.