> I don't have to miss birthdays or holidays anymore Interesting, my experience is the same except for this point. I feel like I never leave work now, I'm so

> I don't have to miss birthdays or holidays anymore Interesting, my experience is the same except for this point. I feel like I never leave work now, I'm so stressed out I don't feel like I can properly socialize. When I'm not "working" I'm still trying to keep up with the latest tech, make sure I'm a competitive candidate and can get another job if I don't have one tomorrow (and I haven't felt any sense of security with my job for 3 years). Contrasting with service industry, I never missed birthdays; even if I had to show up at the tail end of the party sometimes, I showed up in a good mood and was generally excited for all the fun things I did in life outside of work. Yes, the pay wasn't as good, but I was much happier. I did get pretty lucky to never get sexually abused or a gun brandished on me at work though, I know that happens to people as well (though let's not kid ourselves and pretend sexual abuse doesn't happen in the tech industry as well) Also, the only time I've ever been physically struck by a superior was in a tech job (in Canada believe it or not). It was a light slap and after work drinks, but still, there are problems in all industries (and I slapped him back)