It's like this with many forms of discrimination: it can be difficult to really discern the offending person's true motivation. Did they treat you badly becaus

It's like this with many forms of discrimination: it can be difficult to really discern the offending person's true motivation. Did they treat you badly because they're a racist or sexist? Or are they just an asshole or an idiot? For a single bad incident, you usually can't tell unless they specifically say something that's racist/sexist; otherwise, you need to see a larger pattern of behavior.