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Whilst I moderately agree that it does sound like it could be stalkerish there is some evidence of her active involvement, eg: > I was living at my parents’ ho

by nl 4y ago

Whilst I moderately agree that it does sound like it could be stalkerish there is some evidence of her active involvement, eg: > I was living at my parents’ home in Rockville Centre and feared that asking Zervos to reply to Ed Epstein c/o Betty & Lou Epstein might cast my credibility as a producer into question. Susan’s sorority house at Cornell, Alpha Epsilon Phi, had a similar problem, but Susan found the solution: her father. > David Brockman, a successful financier, had an impressive address, which I used as my return address. and: > I returned to Greece with Susan. She would supervise the design of the costumes, chariots, and other artwork. She took the costume design from vases she found in museums.

DoreenMichele 4y ago
I'm a woman. I try to assume good faith if men are pretending they wish to support my professional goals. In my experience, it's 100 percent downside for me if the real motivation is sexual interest.
- nl 4y ago
  As I said, I moderately agree but I'm unsure there is enough information to be sure. She certainly was involved in the project and seems to possibly have known of his romantic interest because she told him when she told him when she had become romantically involved with Willem de Kooning.
  - DoreenMichele 4y ago
    Choosing to accept a leading role in a movie that many people were excited about because they thought Brando would be in it does not mean she was never uncomfortable with his romantic interest in her. The fact that she told him she got involved with someone else may have been polite code for "You can stop holding out hope we will get together. It's not going to happen, which I have been trying to politely signal since the very first time you chatted me up and I didn't bother to so much as look at you." If a woman is too picky about completely avoiding men who are interested in her where her answer is definitely no to their romantic interest, it can make it impossible to pursue a career at all and doing so may not even protect her from having to put up with his unwanted attentions. #NotAllMen, obviously, but it's an excessively common issue for some women.

by nl 4y ago

DoreenMichele 4y ago

I'm a woman. I try to assume good faith if men are pretending they wish to support my professional goals. In my experience, it's 100 percent downside for me if the real motivation is sexual interest.

nl 4y ago
As I said, I moderately agree but I'm unsure there is enough information to be sure. She certainly was involved in the project and seems to possibly have known of his romantic interest because she told him when she told him when she had become romantically involved with Willem de Kooning.
- DoreenMichele 4y ago
  Choosing to accept a leading role in a movie that many people were excited about because they thought Brando would be in it does not mean she was never uncomfortable with his romantic interest in her. The fact that she told him she got involved with someone else may have been polite code for "You can stop holding out hope we will get together. It's not going to happen, which I have been trying to politely signal since the very first time you chatted me up and I didn't bother to so much as look at you." If a woman is too picky about completely avoiding men who are interested in her where her answer is definitely no to their romantic interest, it can make it impossible to pursue a career at all and doing so may not even protect her from having to put up with his unwanted attentions. #NotAllMen, obviously, but it's an excessively common issue for some women.