Incompetent, even malicious, managers exist in every industry as do difficult co-workers. I would have thought that you may have had difficult to please bosses

Incompetent, even malicious, managers exist in every industry as do difficult co-workers. I would have thought that you may have had difficult to please bosses when you worked in the fast food industry or even at the non-profit. There are some rude and inconsiderate Uber passengers. So getting out of tech due to experiences of interpersonal conflicts is unlikely to be a solution to your pain. If you are willing to move to a lower cost of living area, and prepared to have lower income, and willing to do more physical work, then you could look at the many areas that are short of staff and choose one which aligns with your values. My experience was to leave analyst/programmer job, work on house building for a couple of years. I then returned to IT as a network engineer and systems admin. So changing is feasible. The variety of experiences makes me grateful for what I have now. Spending far less than what I earn gives me peace of mind.